These two seperate articles were penned by women who have seen a dangerous trend a happenning, which further afects how Afrikan maleness and fatherhood is accepted and viewed in this post feminazi western influenced society.
The first article was taken from the website, http://www.blackbluedog.com,
Father’s Day Is For Fathers, NOT Single Mothers
June 12, 2013 | Filed under: News | Posted by: Maria Lloyd
Far too often, arrogant single mothers will claim they are playing the role of both parents and expect to be acknowledged on Father’s Day. These women fail to realize that although they may be taking on double the financial and emotional stress of raising a child, they will never play the role of a father figure because, simply put, they’re not men.
My mother, who raised me alone due to my father’s incarceration, would never accept recognition on Father’s Day for her hard work as a single mother because she realized there are things that a woman is physically and mentally incapable of teaching a child. The absence of a child’s father does not mean the child is to be without a father figure. My mother knew this and kept me very close to my grandfather, who served as a prime example of how a man should treat the women he loves, until his untimely death.
A mother who fails to find trustworthy father figures in her child’s life is a mother who is too blinded by her own ego to make decisions in the best interest of her children. Quite frankly, this type of woman is not a mother at all. She’s a selfish, pity-party-throwing, egotistical female who wants the entire world to be punished for a bad decision she made to become pregnant by a man that wants absolutely nothing to do with her. Sadly, it appears as if a number of modern-day single mothers treat their children more like an expensive Louis Vuitton purse to sport on their hip and brag about with their peers as opposed to an actual human being whose life is drastically altered by the good and bad decisions she makes.
A mother who wants to be acknowledged on Father’s Day is a woman who lacks basic intelligence and is more than likely a single mother for that very reason. Let’s celebrate fathers on Father’s Day, not egotistical women.
Maria Lloyd (@WritingsByMaria) is a contributor for the Your Black World Network. She is a graduate of Clark Atlanta University and an advocate of dismantling the prison industrial complex, increasing entrepreneurship, reforming education, and eradicating poverty.
go to the website and see the response , both for and against the authors point. http://www.blackbluedog.com/2013/06/news/maria-lloyd-fathers-day-is-for-fathers-not-single-mothers/
Single Mothers Please Let Fathers Have Their Day
June 11, 2013 in Mommy Chronicles, Speak On It Topic
Nothing burns my buns more than when people tell me Happy Father’s Day because I am a single mother. I absolutely believe this is the most disrespectful act of passive aggression a single mother could participate in. No matter how great of a mom I am, I could never be a MAN! No amount of nurturing, time, and/or material things could replace an absent father. Maybe some of them would be better fathers if we stopped trying to diminish them and their role every chance we get. and instead show a little support at least on the one day set aside for them.
Being a single mom myself, I understand the desire to want to disregard a father who is absent or not following through on his parental duties. However, whenever I want to go in, I remember that I am partially responsible for my predicament. I chose to have intercourse with someone who is irresponsible which makes me just as irresponsible for not being a better judge of character before putting myself in a position to create a life. So I’ve actually apologized to my daughter every time she expresses her displeasure with her dad. I take responsibility for my role (not his). I confess that I was young, dumb, and being irresponsible with my body and now she has to suffer the consequences of it. Yeah I know, seems odd right? Right, because we’re always taught to blame the other person and throw the dad under the bus.
At an early age, I learned from my mother that no matter what my father did she never disrespected him in front of us and never allowed us to either. She always said to us no matter what that’s your father and you are to respect him as such. I guess that’s old school huh? I guess my mom knew there would come a time when her children would form their own opinions about their father’s actions and confront him on our own accord. And eventually I did and appreciate that I could honestly say they were my feelings and not my mother’s. Now with God, prayer, and humility I have a good relationship with my pops.
At the end of the day, regardless of how “no good” you think your baby daddy may be, your child still needs him to be apart of his life. So instead of taking the credit on Father’s Day how about you send him a card and if nothing else say thank you for giving me my son(s)/daughter(s). President Obama put it well: “Of all the rocks upon which we build our lives, we are reminded … that family is the most important. And we are called to recognize and honor how critical every father is to that foundation. They are teachers and coaches. They are mentors and role models. They are examples of success and the men who constantly push us toward it.”