When things fall apart, or when love is not one of the many splendid things


Things Fall Apart is about the tragic fall of Okonkwo, and the Igbo culture. Okonkwo is a respected and influential leader within the Igbo community of Umuofia in eastern Nigeria. He first earns personal fame and distinction, and brings honor to his village, when he defeats Amalinze the Cat in a wrestling contest. Okonkwo determines to gain titles for himself and become a powerful and wealthy man in spite of his father’s weaknesses.  Okonkwo’s father, Unoka, was a lazy and wasteful man. He often borrowed money and then squandered it on palm-wine and merrymaking with friends. Consequently, his wife and children often went hungry. Within the community, Unoka was considered a failure and a laughingstock. He was referred to as agbala, one who resembles the weakness of a woman and has no property. Unoka died a shameful death and left numerous debts.  Okonkwo despises and resents his father’s gentle and idle ways. He resolves to overcome the shame that he feels as a result of his father’s weaknesses by being what he considers to be “manly”; therefore, he dominates his wives and children by being insensitive and controlling.  Because Okonkwo is a leader of his community, he is asked to care for a young boy named Ikemefuna, who is given to the village as a peace offering by neighboring Mbaino to avoid war with Umuofia. Ikemefuna befriends Okonkwo’s son, Nwoye, and Okonkwo becomes inwardly fond of the boy.Over the years, Okonkwo becomes an extremely volatile man; he is apt to explode at the slightest provocation. He violates the Week of Peace when he beats his youngest wife, Ojiugo, because she went to braid her hair at a friend’s house and forgot to prepare the afternoon meal and feed her children. Later, he severely beats and shoots a gun at his second wife, Ekwefi, because she took leaves from his banana plant to wrap food for the Feast of the New Yam.

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When noted Nigerian author Chinwe Achebe, wrote this ground breaking book, it was embraced by Afrikan people near and far, because the subject matter was close to our collective hearts. The loss of culture and direction, and the tragedy that befalls us when we lose our way and purpose in matters that are dear to us. While this story was about one man’s failings to live up to the ideals and standards he set for himself, notably a high and harsh one, it does show the consequences of not being able to live up to the ideals one sets for themself, in personal relationships and how things can easily fall apart both when you hold on too tight AND too loosely.

Ever since Lauren Babbit became infamously famous for severing her husbands penis. Celebrated near and far, by females and some shemales ( females in males clothings), countless women have been in the news following suite, by acting out similar scenarios and proudly proclaiming their RIGHT to retaliate in such a way, for basically the idea ( whether true or not) of their men, cheating on them. Rest assured that men have been at this genital mutilation thing much longer than women. At least according to some documented reports.

I am not here to debate which is worse, or why” rational” people supposedly in “love”, either mutilate another because their “love” was betrayed, or mutilate another out of this false assumption of what this “love” thing is. However, the novel Things Fall Apart, for me encapsulates the very idea that our cultural practices have been and continues to crumble under external pressures, that has tainted and poison our internal sensibilities and cultural norms.

First of all, this abstract idea of love….is something i call a dirty four letter word….because of how the word, its meaning and application has been misoverstood, misapplied and misused by western society. As well as the majority of societies overly influenced by the western society’s uncivilized and satanic behaviour. In ancient times and in many cultures around the planet today. Cultures that actually practice this love thing, outside the purveys of western uncivilized behaviours, love is less about what you proclaim and more about what you do and how you behave. The minute you end up hurting someone you had previously proclaimed your love for….then your love was not love, in its truest sense, or you never had a handle on this state and your subsequent actions serve to prove this.

Too many of us use the excuses of love,or being in love to explain away outlandish or violent behaviour against the people we claim we love. Those who actually do or enable similar mind set call it passion, jealousy or some other nonsense, instead of what it really is. Emotional immaturity,  lack of discipline , social savagery and mental instability. Poems, songs, novels and shows are created glorifying such behaviours, thus encouraging and further indoctrinating new recruits who lack the social grace, personal training or maturity to deal with a relationship that may be shaky, on the rocks or on the verge of crumbling. Many of these types of relationships, long before they get to that point, were sufferings because BOTH participants had failed to enter into that relationship with knowledge of self, self worth and a clear overstanding of what they seek in a compliment. We use terms like partner, husband, wife or girl friend/boyfriend, which are all limited and and incomplete designations that fuel an incomplete overstanding of how we must enter into, accept or act when in a relationship. For instance, the original term for a “husband” is one who takes care of a farm animal, thus the modern appellation. ..”animal husbandry”. No adult over teen age years should call each other “girlfriend” or “boyfriend”, because it evokes a certain emotional and temporary approach to what each is engaged in. And while i have stated that a relationship should be treated as a business,  with the requisite approach in effort and sacrifice, most people view “partnership” like a detached phenomena,  devoid of the deep desire and passion that growing a business requires.

Since most knee-grows practice the drug called Christianity, and since most knee-grow Muslims are former Christians, who read both books of fables without any deep discernment or practical application,  i sometimes refer back to that which they have been conditioned to embrace, but which they sheepishly misuse or miss entirely. Just as a reference point they can relate to. When speaking to one of these lost souls, i have in the past referenced the passage from 1 Corinthians, as an example of a teaching point that is always agreed upon, but immediately dismissed for something more phantasmagorical. Things such, “Jesus is the way” or “god forgives if you repent”. Shit that don’t mean anything and don’t make any sense, if you also state that man is gifted with will, to elevate him above the crawling, flying or swimming creatures. 1st Corinthians, instructs the drug addicts in the Way of Love, by stating….

1 “… If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.

2 And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.

3 If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.

4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant, or rude.

5 It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;

6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.

7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

8 Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.

9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part,

10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away.

11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.

12 For now we see in a mirror darkly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.

13 So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love….”

What this means is that of all the basic emotions…love lasts. But it is a love that is not full of itself, is not irritable or resentful, does not insist on its own way and does not rejoice in wrong doing. What would we call wrong doing then? Well mutilating your supposed partners genitalia is rejoicing in wrong doing, but so is searching their phone or personal items, stalking them because you believe they are not faithful, screwing around on them…first or after they did it…neither is righteous.  Certainly not shooting up a car, such as what one of the women from the gospel group Mary Mary did, when she THOUGHT her husband driving a retooled classic car, was him trolling for women. Many of us today who lack self worth, or self love, seek validation in others and strive to create and arrest a false image of what they feel is the ideal mate that would make them feel validated. So if that other person does something radical like go through personal growth, it upsets the weak persons world and leaves them disoriented and confused. Confusion leads to frustration, anger, self pity and often violence. Self pity and even self violence is when that anger is turned on the self and the weak person, accepts abuse, verbal, emotional and physical. When they subject themselves to humiliating acts in order to WIN back a “love” they probably never had. Or when they try to prove their “love” by killing themselves, the object of their alleged “love” or somebody else, associated with that somebody. This is not live. This is emotional immaturity and an inability to find balance in ones life. Many such cases come to mind immediately. The knee-grow female who killed her two children and stuffed them in a freezer. The knee-gress in England who, when her yurugu husband wanted to leave her, killed her children, then phoned him to throw the act in his face. The one knee-grow who was being abused by his children’s mother through the white supremacy court system, decide to kill her, two of his three children and himself, just barely missed killing the woman’s live in “boyfriend” and her daughter from another relationship. There was also the 3 year old who froze to death after wondering from his grandmothers home, but as it turned out, she was dropping the child off at somebody else other than the father, whom she didn’t have good relationship with…..while she went out to party. All of the above and numerous others are some examples of committing violence on someone that was supposed to be loved. Yet the media twists it away from these people having damaged spirit, that are enabled by the system, friends and even strangers who would justify and explain away that kind of evil. To be in a relationship is not to lose your identity in that relationship, because if it sours, it gets nasty real fast. And in the case of infanticide or child abuse, these are people with undiagnosed or ignored, mental or emotional health issues. Ignored because a social worker, a friend or a family member, often knows, but plays it off. Of course social workers often go to the other extreme of discriminating based on cultural biases…but that’s a story for a different post.

Kahlil Gibran in his classic, the prophet, stated that…”Love possesses not, nor would it be possessed; For love is sufficient unto love”.  Stevie wonder sang…”love is in need of itself”.

How do you love? Possessively? Do you seek to control your compliment? Do you enter into this relationship under the principles of Ma’at and overstand reciprocity? Do you know what you are about, what you want or where you are going in that relationship? Or truly what you want out of it?

When things fall apart, rest assured it was built on lose sand or a shaky foundation. And the crumbling was but an inevitable conclusion to poor construction, poor skill set and poor architectural planning.

A great man once said…nothing, wealth, fame, happiness or contentment can be found outside of self. It is found inside. Thus when one  has balance nothing outside can control you.

The western worlds continuous violence against Afrikan men


Amurdikkka’s fear/obsession with Afrikan men, is as old as their fore fathers obsession with us dating as far back to the time they first came crawling out of the caves of the Caucasus mountain to reap havoc on the planet and every single living entity there in. Amurdikkka’s obsession is no different than the rest of the worlds own fear/obsession, which is led and orchestrated by those who classify themselves as white. In Europe, as much as in North Amurdikkka. I use the term amurdikkka, due to the disproportionate incarceration and legal murder of Afrikan people..men, women and children…but predominantly men, compared to the rest of the world and more than any nation in areas not experiencing non traditional warfare. Rest assured though that Afrikan people are in a state of war and while our women and children are collateral damages at best, victims at worse, the men are the specific targets of yurugu’s fear/obsession.

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My definition of racism follows that of my elder scribes Dr. Francis Cress-Welsing and Baba Neely Fuller, which is as follows;

‘Racism and white supremacy is the local and global power system and dynamic, structured and maintained by people who classify themselves as white—whether consciously or subconsciously determined, which consists of patterns of perception, logic, symbol formation, thoughts, speech actions and emotional response, as conducted simultaneously in all areas of people activity, including economics, education, entertainment, labor, law, politics, religion, sex and war—for the ultimate purpose of white genetic survival and to prevent white genetic annihilation on planet Earth, the planet which upon the vast and overwhelming majority of people are classified as non-white (black brown red and yellow), by white-skinned people and all of the non-white people are genetically dominant in terms of skin coloration compared to the genetic recessive white-skinned people,

Francis Cress-Welsing:

According to Dr. Welsing….

” there are a lot of white women dating Black men.’ Yes, that’s happening now, but there are still increasing numbers of black men being incarcerated. At the same time that it looks like black men are free to do XYZ, but if you’re looking at the totality of the picture, there are more Black men behind bars than there are dating these white women. The whole system relationship with black men exists to put them out of commission, whether that means unemployment, underemployment, incarceration and killing, which is ‘stand your ground.’ All they have to say is ‘I thought he had a weapon, I was afraid,’ and then that gives them [citizens or police officers] the right to shoot and kill black men. Subconsciously speaking, the ‘weapon’ they’re referring to is his genitals and genetic material. Genetic annihilation can’t take place from black females to white people, or through any kind of female, because females cannot impose, by force, sexual intercourse. Only men can, so it’s the Black man that’s the threat. Of all the non-white people, black people have the greatest genetic potential to cause white genetic annihilation.”

“if the black man and the black woman are allowed to come together as a strong unit, then they will be able to produce strong children. If you don’t want that to happen, because your goal is white genetic survival, the BM is the #1 threat, so what you try to do is destroy the threat. By preventing black people from coming together harmoniously to produce self-respecting black children, you drive a wedge. You don’t talk about racism and white supremacy as a dynamic, you don’t talk about how those things cause black men’s unemployment and how a man cannot function as a husband and a father if he doesn’t have a job. He has to be employed, so by keeping the black man unemployed, you are really driving a wedge in the functionality of the Black family and weakening the next generation of black men.”

“Black people have to get it to the mind frame that ‘black’ means dignity and being serious, that people respect one another. this is going to be the strength of black people—valuing themselves, respecting themselves and having dignity. Mandela was in prison for  fighting apartheid, which is racism and white supremacy, and after 27 years of breaking rocks, he had the most dignified appearance of all of the men on the planet. White people need us to be clowns and buffoons, but that is not who we are. Black people need to start seeing themselves as the mothers and fathers of every other person on the planet, we have to define ourselves.”

 This topic was touched on in an on-line article on http://www.blackstarnews.com, titled  Browning Nation: What’s Really Behind White America’s “Fear” Of Black Men?. In the December 18,2014, article the author, Ras Memnon articulated that “Racism has increased since the election of Obama nation’s first president” 

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In light of the epidemic killing of Black men, by White police officers nationwide, epitomized by what happened to Michael Brown and Eric Garner, the question of the “fear of Black men” reminiscent of Rap group Public Enemy’s album “Fear of a Black planet” and where it stems from needs to be more fully explored. The thoughts of Dr. Francis Cress Welsing author of the seminal The Isis Papers; The Keys to the Colors are important in deciphering the source of White people’s fear of Black males. Dr. Cress Welsing is known for advancing the controversial “Cress Theory of Color Confrontation.”

One can read the rest of the article here. Also download the Impact of the mass incarceration on Afrikan man PDF

Modern Slavery More Black Males in Prison Today Than Enslaved in 1850

The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration and Racial Caste in the U.S.A.

 

THE NEW JIM CROW Online documentary

 

The destruction of the proverbial Afrikan village


 

The adage..”it takes a village to raise a child”, is an oft repeated refrain, that lacks much of any substance or weight among the manufactured beings called the modern knee-grow. One of our problems remains our insisting on throwing out empty or meaningless phrases, without overstanding their origin, meaning or impact on us and our lives. Due to our collective conditioning under white supremacy, our village has often been the church, the schools,  the courts, gangs and increasingly the prison industrial complex. All of these organizational entities do not have a child’s best interest or welfare in mind. They are each concerned with their own image and how they will look to a jury of their peers or what the bottom line looks like. As a product of an environment, a former colony of the brutish empire and of the worst genocidal incursion in the modern era…chattel slavery…I am well versed in the idea that (a) children should be seen not heard and (b) the shitstym is best able to raise, edumacate or take care of the Afrikan child. This goes for us equally in the diaspora as well as on the continent of Afrika. Ad long as we immerse ourselves in the culture and practice the cultural mores of a savage, invader race, who colonizes our bodies, mind and spirit through reLIEgion, folly tricks and economic bully tactics…to name a few….we will forever be enthralled and spellbound by that culture. Many of us, a great deal of us, whether we will admit it or not, have failed to practice the village concept in our daily lives. Non more so egregious than how we raise our children. Many of us are products of not only a broken and damaged psyche and spirit, but a series of broken and damaged social interaction inter gender and between genders. This is reflected in how we view the world and how we view our selves, our worth and position in the world. We see the world through blue, green or grey eyes and consequently have forgotten the true meaning and impact of “…. it takes a village to raise a child “. We are a people of collectivity, not individuality. Our selfishness makes us imbalanced because that is not our nature. This not the nature of ANY sentient being in the planet. ..even yurugu. But it impacts us more because we are the ONLY group that is as far from our natural state as the sun is to the planet earth. The issue of child raring with us, is often a debate that is contentious, self serving and meaningless, because the welfare of the actual subject of the debate….the child…is ill considered, under the best of circumstances and totally ignored otherwise. As Khalil Gibran so eloquently put it.

 Your children are not your children.They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,  which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them,  but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness; For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

There is nothing more telling of a parents selfishness and over all bad parenting, then one tells another “this is MY CHILD!” This is the epitome of evilness that will quickly spread to how that person parents a child. Treating the child as if she/ he was a product of purely masturbation and not the exchange of fluids between a male and a female, will soon become difficult when YOUR CHILD, does not turn out exactly how you want them to turn out,  so you see this failure as the fault of the other parent and ultimately the child. We live in a society that celebrates female independence,  yet encourage them to be dependent on a system, that hates women, children, families and heterosexuals. It is definitely a system that hates Afrikan men and women, so it pits the Afrikan man and women against each other in a macabre dance of contentiousness and conflicts. It uses our self loathing and insecurities, that the very same system creates, to drive a wedge between us. All the while creating future generations of damaged children and damaged adults. Keep in mind that the knee-grow is the worlds only trauma victim, that has never had therapy, whether financially or otherwise, but is expected to catch up after 500 years of brutal trauma and victimization. Is there any wonder why more prisons are being built, more of us are experiencing mental health break downs and more Afrikan youth are incarcerated at a faster and greater rate than some of the most repressive regime outside of north amurdikkka? Is it no wonder that more Afrikan children are being taken from their homes by the legal child snatchers, independent agencies that are hired by the government to disrupt families, under their protection and the pretext of protecting children? So we have more children in this society, in general, who don’t even know what the village is, much less what the village support looks and feels like. And if it is bad for most ethnic group, in this society under white supremacy, it is 10 fold so, with in the Afrikan community. There was a time when the media would promote the idea that men are abusers, violent, destructive and bad parent. And even though the feminazis and those with an agenda and funding, to make still promote male violence as inherent, the rise in female domestic violence, child abuse and bad parenting seems to contradict the anti male propaganda. I say rise, but it is really not so much a rise as a consistent problem that many are not ignoring any more. Why is this, you say? Because while mens failures have been typically documented and rebroadcasted ad infinitum, women just can’t get out of their way and their emotions. Despite many agencies trying to make excuses for them. Our news feed is constantly filled with stories about be headings, torture, neglect that leads to tragedies, bad choices in friends that causes death and bad company that hurt and murder children. All from women and increasingly so from knee-grow females.

The story below is an example of a female that is deluded and exhibits such bad parenting skills, that one wonders what she did prior to this when the spotlight wasn’t on her. It illustrates how lack of proper parenting skills and common sense have now placed two little boys into a situation where they could be permanently  psychologically damage, if they don’t get therapy instantly. of all the many ways and types of destruction we have vested onto our offspring, because of our psychological maladaptation to our inferior position in western (white ) society there is nothing as screwed up as when stupidity is the cause. Not using the child as a weapon in child custody or child support cases. Not negligence in allowing the child to grow greater than the retched environment your monkey ass grew up in and think is perfectly fine. And not striving to instill a higher quality of life purpose in your child. No…the most screwed up thing I have ever seen is when a nik-nak calls the poLICE to intervene in your supposed natural duty as parents. Knee-grows are calling the beasts to parent their children. If this shit ain’t some slavery mind set, i fail to see what else is. We saw it with some emasculated and probably latent homosexual father calling the beasts on his son to …”frighten him against being involved in gangs”..or some mess like that.

However, Tyeesha Mobley, 29, experienced what that knee-grow slave mindset has wrought, when she took this, most stupid act of 2015 so far, she ended up being arrested and roughed up and had her children taken away from her for four months after asking the cops to speak to her eldest about stealing. Not even in hollyweird could you make something up like this and make people believe it. You can read the story here. Please do! Then wonder why yurugu and other people dismiss us as inferior and useless eaters.

I am going to leave you with some words of Umar Johnson, who has seen these types of behavior. Destructive behaviors, up front, that has caused the destruction of the village we so often cite as responsible for raising our future generation.