When your choices are suspect,expect clap back


my-preference

Incongruous: Out of keeping or place; inappropriate; unbecoming; not harmonious in character; inconsonant; lacking harmony of parts… inconsistent

I am sharing this post after reading where some black women are complaining, once again, that he black man has no reason to comment on their hair. Overstand that hair for black women is often more important than eating, sleeping, paying their bills or paying rent.

It used to be in the past that when i hear black women say that they way they wear their hair has no reflection on or does not define their blackness,  i used frown at them. Later I just laughed at the foolishness. Now? I just shake my head in pity. Yes pity! There is a mantra that I like to chant, anytime I hear kneegrows make excuses for their psychological dependencies on things detrimental to who they really are. That mantra is “any excuse will do”.

The idea behind this mantra is that kneegrows will look for and make up any excuse to justify things they KNOW they should not indulge in. Sort of like those who will search high and low for a reason to demonize somebody, even though things contrary to their search keeps bopping them upside their heads. In that case I have another mantra for that. Throwing shit up against the wall, until it sticks!

Despite what many may think, I am really not one of those bush men that don’t overstand a womans need to beautify herself. And while I am constantly amazed at the length women go to to “feel pretty”, I realize that this is an emotional thing for a woman. Which is very different from men wanting to “conquer” or “accomplish” things, to feel relevant.

In the case of the excuse makers, there are those who will seek justification or support for certain emotional attachment to unnecessary and even detrimental things. Women who perm, put weave in and wear wigs top the list. Followed by people who grow fat because they can’t or refuse to control what goes in their mouths and people who claim they see no color. All three excuses are feel good lies people tell themselves, because lying to yourself is easier than actually admitting that you lack strength of purpose or even self esteem.

Black women and Hair:

This is one of the biggest issue between black women and between black men and black women. It has become a goldmine routine for comedians and even non black people. When black women proclaim that wearing wigs, weave or perm does not dictate your blackness, what they are really saying is their personal blackness is a fashion statement. And like any fashion statement, they should be allowed to do whatever they feel makes them comfortable in their psychosis and still be accepted as black. As far as intelligently looking at this from a big picture stance. You can be black and be any one of:

  1. homosexual
  2. a murderer
  3. a pedophile
  4. a alcoholic
  5. a prostitute
  6. a criminal
  7. a drug user
  8. someone who engages in bestiality
  9. a hater of all things black or Afrikan

Or any variation of the numerous sickness that we have grown to accept and embrace under white pathology. I am not being extreme when I site these points because we do know of, read of or heard of kneegrows engaging in any or all of these various practices.  What women and many Simps mean when they say your hair does not define your blackness is that you can practice any form of mutilation or self hate of one of your most natural expression of blackness, yet still practice pan Afrikanism, being black conscious, or practice self love.

The same way we rightfully condemn a male or female who bleach their skin to look ghastly, is the same way we should condemn them for doing things to their hair that not only is damaging, but unnecessary and even dangerous.  There is nothing loving about putting chemical in your natural helix, trying to straighten them, so you can look “prettier”. There is nothing self loving about the kind of stuff that weave does to your scalp. Particular the lace front  foolishness.

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The chemicals that perms or the glue from weave does to your brain or other organs are documented and horrible. Shoot! Maggots have been found in some of those weaves because many strands that make up a weave, are taken directly from disceased bodies. Wigs just look ridiculous, because you are not even making an effort. An effort to hide your natural Afrikaness. Which is what women who wear those styles more than their natural look are saying.

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No…wearing whatever style you want to wear does not make you less black. What it does though is tell me that you would rather damage your natural hair to look the opposite of how nature crafted you. Then when you proclaim your consciousness it is incongruent to what people mean when they say “blackness”. On a further note frying, perming your hair or wearing weaves, is  to effect a European look….which is what all of these styles really are about. Don’t agree with me, watch how a woman wearing those styles, consciously and unconsciously play with their hair and whip them around like white women. Then watch someone wearing locks, afro or just a natural look, DON’T consciously or unconsciously play with theirs. Even more sad are the kneegrows who either go with the flow or prompt these women to try and look as European as possible without actually…you know…looking like they want to be European.

I have heard women say that Egyptians wore wigs. Consider that since Egypt is not the whole of Afrika  but just one on a continent of 54 countries, nor is it a reflection of the 3000 distinct ethnic groups or 2000 languages, so  I believe that using that analogy is clutching at straws. plus if you observe depiction of Egyptian women wearing wigs, it is usually the wealthy, who tend to do stuff regular folks have neither the time or inclination to do. When Afrikan women do things to their hair, even pretty themselves up and such, it is only the post colonial Afrikans, who fall out of love with their naturalness and engage in the same foolishness he modern western woman indulge in.

So you are right…wearing wigs, perms or weave is not a reflection of your “blackness”… but it is a reflection of your acceptance of your Afrikan beauty.

Hefty, thick, fluffy or fat:

This is another excuse we like to make in explaining away the inability to stay disciplined with our health. There is a world of a difference between a naturally thick woman and what is described these days as “fluffy”. Fluffy is fat. Fat is excess adipose tissues (loose connective tissue in which fat cells accumulate)that reflects a unhealthy state and lifestyle. Usually accompanied with the lack of physical exercise, proper diet or both. Without relying on the European medical standards, if we just use the eye test we can overstand that if your jeans is holding up a flabby backside or swish cheese legs, you are not thick of even hefty. You are morbidly fat and your health is compromised. You blood pressure is shot, your sugar or insulin levels  are already dangerously diabetic and you maybe closer to an angina attack or stroke, than you think.

I have seen too many men and women lugging around two and three bellies and swearing they are sexy. No..your colon is blocked and your blood stream is filled with fat particles. Too many of us claim that we love a fat person. Nothing is wrong with loving a fat person. Their personality maybe through the roof and they are just fantastic people. But health wise, you do them and disservice as they do themselves, by not striving to take care of your health or your compliment not supporting a healthy lifestyle. They and you must want them to be around for more than and round minute in the relationship. you don’t have to be super sian fit like an athlete, but paying attention to what you put in your mouth and learning to walk for 30 minutes a day goes along way to helping improving your health.

The color blind: the color blind set are the most pathetic set there is. Those people with weight issues have more often than not discipline issues. Those who like to cover up their hair have self esteem issues. But the color blind set are just idiots. Fucking retards. Fucktards. They tell you that the treat people as human beings. But while that is a Nobel goal, they are in reality only color blind when dealing with non black people. They are never color blind with their own. In fact the color blind set, uses this excuse when sexing a member of  another ethnic group…usually a white person. These people rarely, if ever have sex with their own. I am going to be straight with my readers and say if sleeping with another ethnic group is your thing. Or sleeping with every ethnic group is your thing. This is your right. However the color blind blind story be exclusive in their choices and it’s rarely ever another black person. I say rarely because I know of a few “color blind” people who will sleep with anything that moves. And we have  a particular name for people who sleep with everything that moves.

A hop skip and jump down from color blind are those imbeciles that claim to not see race. This statement is more often than not echoed by kneegrows who have achieved…in their eyes…a certain level of social status among white people. The urge to distance yourself from a lower economic status is a debatable one, based on the threat level brought on by jealousy or envy. But to distance yourself from your damn mind by saying your don’t see color or race is telling intelligent people you have volunteered to remove yourself from being black and become some sort of gray/in-between entity manufactured in a psyche ward. Claiming to be Colorblind or not seeing race indicates you  won’t acknowledge the very real ways in which race-ism has existed and continues to exist, both in individuals and systemically. By professing not to see race, you’re just ignoring race-ism, not wishing to solving it. People like these have chosen not to be down with the fight against white pathology.

(Photo: The Real/Warner Bros.)

Like this ass fucker who claims he doesn’t see race-ism, because he doesn’t embrace it. Yet he would embrace a white dudes ass cheeks though...

At the end of the day, each of us can choose to say or embrace anything we want. Claim it own it. But overstand that your reason has to be sound. If your reasons are obviously suspect or blatant, then expect clap back, repercussions or ridicule. Neither i or any one can tell you how to live your life. But we sure can point to the dishonesty in your statements and actions.

7 thoughts on “When your choices are suspect,expect clap back

  1. Great post.

    Although all of my sister friends are natural, we do like to switch it up sometimes and heat straighten our hair for a different look. That is the beauty of being a woman with natural hair; the styling options are endless. But anyone that always has someone else’s hair in their head, is consistently straightening/perming or even dying multiple colors within a year gets the sideeye from me. From my experience, these women are ofttimes confused and don’t embrace the beauty of our Blackness.

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    1. Beloved…I grew up around Rasta’s. Old school, no eating meat, no eating with metal utensil Rasta. So growing up, my views about what a woman should and shouldn’t do was very extreme. I won’t claim to overstand you all…Lol!, but I have come to overstand that a woman’s hair is more than her beauty expression, but working with it is also therapy. So it is not whether I like or not like, but it is acceptable. But like you said the things they do to damage their hair is a reflection of their psychological state. I have a confession to make still. I absolutely love a woman with a short hair cut or a bald head. But hey…that’s just me.

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  2. “The color blind: the color blind set are the most pathetic set there is. Those people with weight issues have more often than not discipline issues. Those who like to cover up their hair have self esteem issues. But the color blind set are just idiots. Fucking retards. Fucktards. They tell you that the treat people as human beings. But while that is a Nobel goal, they are in reality only color blind when dealing with non black people. They are never color blind with their own. In fact the color blind set, uses this excuse when sexing a member of  another ethnic group…usually a white person. These people rarely, if ever have sex with their own. I am going to be straight with my readers and say if sleeping with another ethnic group is your thing. Or sleeping with every ethnic group is your thing. This is your right. However the color blind blind story be exclusive in their choices and it’s rarely ever another black person. I say rarely because I know of a few “color blind” people who will sleep with anything that moves. And we have  a particular name for people who sleep with everything that moves.”
    Very well said! That sums it up perfectly!
    I must say I’m glad more sistas are embracing their natural hair. The natural hair movement has really been catching on the last few years. I hope it continues. I know this is a touchy issue for many black women. And society forces the false idea you must have long lanky hair to be beautiful. It’s all a lie of course. But I think the more you love yourself and embrace your culture…..you will ditch the weaves and wigs. I also like that Lee Daniels pic. That’s spot on! lol

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    1. Brother I agree this is a touchy subject. But I realized that the black male reinforces the self esteem issues that black women continually experience. Therefore it is up to us to build them back up to the great heights that made black women the envy of the world. While I try not to go out of my way to debate it, at the same time I wont shirk from expressing my views. We are their protectors and providers and we have to be on the job. This Lee Daniel is the kind of stuff that gets on your shoes when you walk across a cow field.

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