When I address this issue of the excessive amount of beat down African men get, I am constantly challenged with examples of knee-grows who fail at being men in charge of their lives, homes and communities. Even though some of these knee-grows are high powered, edumacated movers and shakers, the haters tend to give them a pass due to our current cult of personality worship.

The joke “all black men got running shoes” was not funny when it was told to me by a feminist 20 years ago…and it remains unfunny today.

Yet we still get body shots from all sides, including those who are supposed to be our complement and co-survivors under the jack boot of White Supremacy. This post is part of a series of areas I want to attack and show as how we contribute to our destruction as apart of the over all destruction of the African civilization that has never been abated since the Caucasian man first encountered us.

The African female part of the problem-Part of the Solution

It is said, “…it takes two to make a thing go right, but one to cause it to go wrong”. The current state of African males, as portrayed by western (Caucasian media) is that of a shift less, good for nothing, violent misfit with nary an ounce of intelligence and a penchant for making multiple babies with different women and not minding them. The African males are sited as not even fit to be called a friend of the Caucasian man as this is reserved for the domesticated jackal we call a dog.

Many African and knee-grow women complain about the dearth of “available” complimentary (usually financially endowed) or edumacated males fit to be seen in public with them. I believe Oprah Winfrey was the first to give credence to this cottage country industry of African male abuse instituted and currently run by any and everybody with nary a sense about his-story and context.

When Oprah, by her talk show and movies justifies these character assassinations, hundreds of Caucasian males behind the curtain jump up and down and pat each other on the ass…game over. Then the effeminized knee-grows males get into the act and start bashing.

Yet all they do is bash the end product of over 400 years of Frankenstein manufactured experiment called the knee-grow in America Inc., and the West, respectively. What they are bashing is the end product of a distorted image of a man that they the women helped to create and vilify and many of these effeminate males try to buck and shuffle away from.

The African Man as a child

“The hand that rocks the cradle, rules the world”. The African females are the male’s first teacher up until about age seven. During this time the young male is taught directly and indirectly the value of being a man. So many young males hear, “black men ain’t shit” as his mother discuss with her girlfriends or even yells at the child’s father, step father or family member.

These women are often saddled with multiple children by different men, by the kind of men they are disgusted with and could have seen coming a mile away, but always seem to have a soft spot for, until the charade is exposed and their fantasy world of “thug love” “smooth talk” and “cuteness” comes tumbling down around them and they end up taking their anger out on the child, particularly if he is the child of the missing male and father.

Dr. Jawanza Kunjufu is on record of saying that “mothers love their sons and raise their daughters.” He specifically points to the lack of efforts made in many a household of teaching African males how to be responsible hue-man beings. Not hue-man becoming, not hue man going to be, but hue-man beings.

This means teaching, the basics of responsibility, teaching them politeness, respect for their sisters, mother and all females, about simple stuff like cleaning your room, washing and bathing, proper grooming (not imitating fads) reading to them and teaching them how to read, write and speak with diction and if not enrolling them in tutoring programs, after school programs or classes like chess clubs, toastmasters or anything that keeps them off the streets.

Many male children are allowed to be rambunctious and not allowed to be around Men who can teach them how to be a man. The only chance many young males get to be in a program that attempts to steer them from the streets is when they go to church. But church is usually a breeding ground for either effeminized knee-grows, Christian fanatics or those who think they are above the regular crowd- an elitist crew. Rare, especially today, does the church produce a Reverend Wright or Martin Luther King Jr.

They would more produce many of today’s pastors who tend to shun an economically and educationally challenged brother, or who can’t administer to the “down trodden” unless they are willing to be “born again in Jesus’ blood”. Please note that Christianity is not the only mind control programming out there, it is just the one that still captures the majority of our insecurities and turn them into chains around our souls.

The African male as a pre-teen


Only a man can teach a boy to be a man. As early as four or five, the male child starts drifting, hoping wanting to spend time with daddy. He has worn his mothers shoe, carried her purse, hugs her and told her he loves her, now as he gets older wants to be like daddy. He doesn’t have to say it, but one of the sweetest sounds to a man coming home from work is daddy’s home-whether from daughter or son!


Unfortunately most of the men the boy seeks out are either a grown up version of him (meaning without the basic training) a “baby daddy” or one never experiencing a true fatherly love and positive object to imitate. This man doesn’t know how to take a young boy, much less a girl under his wing and teach him the way of manhood.

Many of these men are themselves fatherless ( including being a child of that furniture sitting in front of the tell-lie-vision), a step-child to several ‘boyfriends” whose only contribution maybe how the boy can spread his seed, how to act tough so no one punk him off or any of the other misguided “bull shit” some men teach boys and believe is manhood training. Please note not every man is like that, I am being pointed with the more extreme of the stereotypes.

These very same women who think all men are shit or nothing, would never allow a brother with good intension to try and get together with his children, much less his son. The family courts make a killing for the stats machine off the number of separated couples they can keep separated and lawyers paid. Some of these same women use the child as a weapon of vengeance ….viciously, and then blame the men for their bitch assness!
On a whole the following is the majority of African woman as mothers in a nutshell:
• Most African woman who has experienced the Western slave conditioning have a subconscious intention of subduing her natural compliment-the African man.
• She has developed, through the horrors of the Ma’afa, an almost self-inflicted psychotic insecurity, which since stepping off the plantation, has been purposeful and continually passed down to her daughters and son.
• The direct cause of the decimated African family in Babylon has a direct correlation to White Supremacy, Caucasian Imperialism and colonialism and the African Ma’afa. The indirect cause is the African woman raising damaged psychotic daughters and damaged and effeminate men who turn around and inflict similar self fulfilling damage and pain on his woman and children.
• As a youth growing up, my generation was the generation of the “baby sitters”, which is much different from the community sharing in the raising and caring of the children. Unfortunately that period was heralding the beginning of the “daycare generation”. This is where strangers, raise, nurture and educate our children precisely when they need the love and support of the primary caregiver, first teacher and greatest love!
• Many of these women, who fell for the Feminist agenda of the Eugenicists and White Supremacist, sincerely believe they are following the methodologies of “trained experts”, who assured them that a baby raised on plastic bottles, plastic toys and PS2’s, instead of breast, family interactions and Umoja, would be as better raised and just as functional.

They thought that a baby raised away from their mother amongst strangers, would give them a break from the chore of child rising and allow them to pursue a “career”, which is nothing more than a reason for this society’s dominant male figure to keep his direct antithesis from competing with them.
• Because the African woman grew up with psychotic self-inflicted pain or pain inflicted by other family members (this includes rape, hate mongering, mental and physical abuse or neglect), she often never knew what it was to be an innocent child growing into a woman of strength.
• The African woman is a pawn in a testosterone game between the Caucasian male with his pathological fear and hatred of the African male who more than any other male is the bane of his existence as the true original male figure on the planet. She is also an object of the Caucasian male’s hidden desire to “taste” this forbidden fruit that has always been his fantasy since his grandfather’s grandfathers; ancestors were on a quest for fire!
• The African male in turn is a pawn between the African female’s desire to be consciously and subconsciously Caucasian women, instead of being her self; because generations of African woman have faced daily hate mongering from her community (black and ugly, light is alright, etc) and the media that never shows a positive African male/female/couple/family or situation, but only aunties and uncles and Oprahs and other manufactured examples of knee-gritude.

• For every woman who laments the lack of a real/good/whatever African male, you have one, often the same, whose childrearing skills are on the level of:
1. Verbal and physical abuse of the boy whenever she is angry with her mate or ex-mate.
2. Believe she can be a father to the male child, even while she laments her inability to understand or keep pace with him.
3. Does not apply the same education, domestic training and social expectations on the male child like she does his sister and doesn’t let him grow up as she treats him like her baby…even as a grown ass man.
• The young male child hears the most negative talk about his adult self, from his mother, grandparent, the media, school and even the African males themselves.

The African male as a teen


By this time, if he is lucky, the child is now passed off to the adult male to learn the ways of manhood. But like the blind leading the blind, most of these young boys are so conditioned and effeminized against being a MAN, he becomes confused about what a man is. This confusion is further enabled by the adult male who has been in perpetual immaturity for 20-30-40 years of his life.

On the other hand, I have witnessed and heard of positive, strong, REAL men, who could have been a source of mentoring to the child, is overlooked, ignored or treated with suspicion by the female who by this time is entrenched in her pathologic love/hate, attract/despised merry-go-round she calls a relationship.

Despite her protestation to the contrary, the African woman will have no fear of using the child as a crutch for her woe-is-me attitude, a weapon against the child’s father and a tool to elicit sympathy from her peers and “Mr. Charlie”, even while she uses the child as her personal psychological punching bag, to vent her anger on. The African male as a teen, if not properly prepared early in the home, is now exercising his yearning to go out in to the world.

It’s instinctive, it’s real and an ill prepared male is “live meat” for the young wolves and other predators in the world. In his groundbreaking book, the conspiracy to destroy black boys, author Jawanza Kunjufu presented a study that commenced in 1950 by the University of Michigan., on the major influences on African males. In descending order it states:

1. Home
2. School
3. Church
4. Peer
5. T.V
This study was revisited in 1992 by an organization called MEE and found the list drastically altered:

1. Peers
2. Rap
3. T.V
4. Home
5. School
This means that at a time when African males should be undergoing a rites of passage program, that ritually prepares them for manhood, they are busy listening to their peers, instead of listening to their parents, ministers, teachers and positive role models. At this point the male child is on his way to being the male his mother feared in his father, whether real or imagined.
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I know there are many women and men who will take offense to this post, well tough shit! Despite what some sucker in a suite, with a book deal or on a talk show says, there are no failed men with out first a failed childhood. After his failed childhood he encounters a failed community that either enables the failure or refuses to play a role in correcting this anomaly. I do firmly believe there are good men out there who are making a difference and are doing greater jobs than I as a father and some one socially involved with our youth.

There are also African Women, some I know, some I know is out there, that are the epitome of womanhood, motherhood and greatness as hue-man beings. Yet these exceptions are ignored, doing their thing often without the benefit of the kind of daps and back patting than others receives because tragedies and car wrecks sells papers and books more so than raising great hue-man beings. However what is the African male like as an older teen or a young adult? I’ll tackle that upcoming if the universe allows it.

12 thoughts on “African Male Bashing: how we do it!

  1. This is a long peice I have it in on my computer I willl share with you. It should help you not get fustrated with the youths or anyone else you can help in their healing process. Hope it helps

    The second and most important step in the process of letting go is to be willing to feel you’re hurt. This is important because it’s the automatic avoidance of this hurt that forces us to resist. We think that we’re resisting our circumstances but we’re not. We are resisting all the feelings and emotion that are being reactivated by our circumstances.
    More accurately, we are resisting a very specific hurt from the past. We are resisting the hurt of feeling not good enough, worthless, not worth loving, or some other form of feeling not okay.

    Once you find and heal this hurt, the need to resist or hang on disappears.
    You can then let go and take the action you need to effectively handle your situation.
    Finding and healing this hurt is one of the most important things you can ever do.
    This hurt is responsible for all your fear and all your upsets. It is responsible for all your self-sabotaging behavior and ultimately, all of your suffering.

    The avoidance of this hurt destroys the love, fuels the conflict and pushes people away. Healing your hurt restores your peace of mind. It also restores your ability to see what needs to be done. There are two steps in the healing process. First, be willing to feel your hurt like a child. This releases the hurt. Second, find and dismantle the inner mechanism that creates your hurt in the first place.

    To begin the healing process, let’s talk about feeling your hurt.
    When you were born, you were created with the natural ability to heal hurt.
    Look at little children. Little children are masters at healing hurt. When a child feels hurt, the child cries. Then, after the child finishes crying, the hurt is all gone.
    Little children are able to release their hurt because they do something that we don’t notice. They feel their hurt willingly. This allows the hurt to run its course. It comes and then it goes.

    This is the natural process for healing hurt. As you allow yourself to feel your hurt willingly like a child, your hurt goes away. Unfortunately, we have been taught to do the opposite. Instead of feeling our hurt willingly like a child, we have been taught to fight our hurt. “Big boys and girls don’t cry. If you want something to cry about, I’ll give you something to cry about.” You soon learn to avoid your hurt. This then circumvents the natural healing process. Instead of flowing with the hurt and letting it go, you fight the hurt and keep it inside.

    You try to push the hurt away, but you can’t. The hurt isn’t outside of you, its inside. So, in your attempt to push the hurt away, you actually push the hurt deeper inside. You suppress your hurt. You then spend the rest of your life running from this hurt. But no matter what you do, you can’t get away from it. You will continue to experience these feelings whether you like it or not.

    As long as you have this hurt, it will get triggered. Your only choice is to feel it willingly like a child or to feel it unwillingly. When you feel you’re hurt unwillingly, the hurt turns into pain and stays. When you feel your hurt willingly like a child, the hurt runs its course and disappears.

    To see this in your life, find a time when you were hurt and you allowed yourself to cry. Then, after you cried your last tear, you felt a wonderful freedom. This is a time when you felt you’re hurt willingly. So feel your hurt willingly like a child. Keep telling yourself, “It’s okay to feel the hurt. It’s okay.” Let the hurt come and let it go. Cry as hard as you can. Crying is the most powerful tool for releasing hurt. If you feel the hurt but there aren’t any tears, fake it. Fake the tears and get into the emotion. This can be just as effective as feeling the real tears.

    Reach in and grab all the hurt you can. Exaggerate the hurt and feel it fully. You may notice certain thoughts as you cry: “Why did she do this?” “Why can’t she love me?” Let the thoughts guide you’re crying. Cry each thought. Then move to the next one. Let the hurt take over. Feel the hurt of your circumstances and the deeper hurt of feeling worthless, not worth loving, a failure, and not good enough.

    It’s not the truth that you are this way, it’s just a hurt, but it’s a hurt that we’ll do almost anything to avoid feeling. “If I really am worthless, I might as well die.” Notice how painful it would be if you really were this way. Notice how much you have avoided this hurt. This is the hurt that runs your life.

    Subconsciously, anything that triggers this hurt becomes a serious threat. Instantly, you become full of fear and upset. You get tunnel vision and lose your ability to see clearly. All you can do is fight, resist, hang on or withdraw. This hurt is responsible for all your suffering and all your self-sabotaging behavior.

    Finding and healing this hurt is literally one of the most important things you can ever do. Finding and healing this hurt is the single most important thing you can ever do. When you were a young child, you were pure love. You were happy, alive and free. Unfortunately, you were born into a world that suppresses this state. As a result, you got hurt, and you got hurt a lot.

    As a little child, the only way you could explain these painful losses of love was to blame yourself. In a moment of hurt, you bought the notion that you were worthless, not good enough, a failure, not worth loving, or in some other way, “not okay”. This wasn’t the truth, but to a little child, this was the only explanation that made any sense at the time. You then hated the very notion that you created. “No one can ever love me if I’m worthless. Worthless is a horrible way to be.”

    The moment you bought the notion that you were “not okay”, you created a mechanism that would then sabotage the rest of your life. From that moment on, the underlying focus of your life would be to avoid this hurt. You may never notice this hurt but it is certainly there. It determines your actions and shapes your life.

    A good way to see this hurt is to notice what happens the moment you get upset. Notice the immediate surge of feelings and emotion that come forth. This is the hurt that runs your life. Any circumstance that reactivates this hurt then becomes a threat that must be avoided at all cost. To protect yourself from this threat, you automatically fight, resist and hang on. This fighting and resisting then creates a state of fear and upset that sabotages your life. You destroy love and create opposition and resistance against yourself. Ultimately, the avoidance of this hurt is responsible for all your self-sabotaging behavior and all your suffering.

    The irony is that the more you fight these feelings of being not okay, the stronger they become and the more they run your life. Everything you do to avoid this hurt actually creates more of the very hurt that you are avoiding.

    The avoidance of these feelings is what gives them power. Here is a short exercise that can demonstrate this: Imagine four large yellow balloons on the ceiling above you, but don’t think about them. Whatever you do, don’t think about those four large yellow balloons on the ceiling above you. You just thought about them. Don’t do that.

    Notice what happens when you try not to think about the yellow balloons. You keep thinking about them. In fact, you can hardly think about anything else. Your resisting keeps the thought alive.

    The same is true with the feelings of being worthless, not good enough, or whatever your issue is. Ultimately, these feelings are only a thought, but by your resisting the thought of being this way, you give the thought power and carry it with you day after day.

    To heal this hurt and to be free inside, you need to do the opposite of fighting and resisting. You need to find the specific hurt that you’ve been avoiding and make peace with it. As you do this, the hurt loses power and disappears. The best way to find your hurt is to look at your upsets. Make a list of all the major upsets that you’ve had in your life. Then find the hurt that’s under each upset. The hurt will always be some form of “not okay.” For each upset, go back in time to the moment the upset began. Then move to the hurt and ask yourself this question: “What do those circumstances say about me?”

    If someone leaves you, this may say that you are not worth loving. If you lose your job, this may say that you are a failure. Find the words that hurt the most. The more painful the words, the closer you are to your hurt. For most people, the bottom line hurt is that of feeling worthless. A list of common issues follows this section.

    As you work with your upsets you will discover that the same hurt keeps showing up in your life, over and over. This is the hurt that runs your life. After you find the specific hurt that you’ve been running from, the next step is to do the opposite of fighting it, which is to embrace it. Allow yourself to feel the hurt of being this way. Cry if you can. Then, while you are feeling this hurt, look at your life and see all the evidence to prove that this is indeed an aspect of you.

    Find the evidence to prove that you are worthless, not good enough, not worth loving, a failure or whatever else you’ve been avoiding. The evidence will be there if you are willing to see it. It has to be. It wouldn’t keep showing up in your life if it wasn’t part of you. You don’t have to like it. You just have to tell the truth about it. Let it in.

    Worthless is part of you. It’s also no big deal. You are also worthy. Worthless and worthy are both aspects of being human. So allow yourself to be human. Allow yourself to feel all the hurt of being worthless, not good enough, a failure or whatever your issue is.
    The more you let in the fact that this is an aspect of you, the more impossible it is to run from it. When you can’t run from it, you can’t fight it. When you can’t fight it, the issue loses power and disappears. It’s just like the yellow balloons. If you stop fighting them and let them be there, they go away.

    As you heal this hurt, your whole life then begins to change. Instead of creating a life of fear and upset, you create a life of love. You restore the happiness, the freedom and the aliveness that you once had. You see life clearly and you become far more effective. In relationships, you can end the conflict and restore the love, one human being to another.
    The process for finding and healing this hurt is very simple and very fast. All you need is the desire you can be free of guilt and resentment.

    Guilt and resentment are states of mind that destroy love and create suffering. They seem to be caused by what happened but they’re not. They are caused by how you relate to what happened. Fortunately, since you created them, you can also release them. Use this section to learn how.

    Guilt
    When you have guilt, you reinforce the feelings of being not okay. You lose your confidence and self-respect. You feel undeserving and you hold yourself back.
    The key to releasing guilt is to recognize that we all go through life doing the very best we can with the extremely limited skills and awareness that we have at the time.

    Unfortunately, the awareness that we have is seldom enough. As a result we make mistakes. Sometimes we make big ones. Making mistakes is part of the human process. This is how we learn. Every time you make a mistake you learn a little more about life. You then become wiser and more aware.

    Five years from now you will be much wiser than you are today, but the wisdom you will have five years from now doesn’t do you any good today. This is true because today, you don’t have it. Likewise the wisdom that you have today didn’t do you any good back when you made your mistake. This is true because back then, you didn’t know what you know today. You only knew what you knew.

    To see this in your life, go back in time to the moment you made your mistake. Notice that at the time, you had a very particular state of mind and a very particular way of seeing life. Notice that you acted totally consistent with where you were at the moment.
    If you knew then what you know today, you could have acted very differently, but you didn’t. Even if you thought you knew better, you didn’t know the consequences like you do today.

    So here is the big question: Are you willing to forgive yourself for not knowing? Are you willing to forgive yourself for not being wiser and more aware? You might as well. If you look, you did the very best you could with where you were at the time. Forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for not being wiser and more aware. Forgive yourself for acting consistent with your limited awareness and forgive yourself for the damage that you caused as a result of your not knowing. Allow yourself to be human.

    Resentment
    When you have resentment, a major part of you closes down. You become bitter and less able to express your love. You lose your aliveness and your joy for life. You put up walls of protection and you make your life more difficult. Letting go of resentment is not for the benefit of the other person. It’s for you.

    When you resent someone, you are saying very forcefully, that the other person is the problem, the cause and the fault. Not you. You forcefully blame the other person so you don’t have to look at yourself. If you looked at yourself, you would have to experience all the hurt from what happened. You would have to feel all the hurt of being not good enough, not worth loving or some other form of not okay. To avoid this hurt, you resent.

    The first step in releasing resentment is to be willing to feel this hurt. Look under the resentment and find what you really avoiding. Find the feelings of being not good enough or not worth loving that you don’t want to feel. Then be willing to experience them. Cry if you can. Once you are willing to feel this hurt, the need for the resentment disappears.

    The next step is to notice that the person you resent has a very particular state of mind and a very particular way of seeing life. Notice that this person has a very limited awareness and acts totally consistent with his or her limited skills and ability. Now notice that if this person was wiser and more aware, then he or she would be able to act very differently, but the person isn’t wiser and more aware. This person only has the limited awareness that he or she has.

    This person is doing the very best he or she can with his or her very limited ability. Notice how much this person suffers as a result of his or her limited equipment.
    Now ask yourself, are you willing to forgive this person for not being wiser and more aware? Are you willing to forgive this person for acting consistent with his or her limited ability? Are you willing for forgive this person for the damage that was caused?

    Remember that forgiveness is for you, not the other person. Forgiveness is a choice. Let go of your resentment and get on with your life.

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  2. I fully believe in therapy for the Maafa, your years of experience can verify that you can’t force therapy on anyone they have to want it and be ready for a life change. Help is always there only when one is ready for a transformation does one see or seek the help.

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    1. Too true on the wanting of therapy, young blood, and I have on numerous occasions attempted to pull the hair out of my closely cropped head in the frustration of trying to get these youngsters to over stand the most simplest of things. But in order to actually help them my evolution must be in the realm of patience and overstanding. I, we, us sometimes have to meet them half way, when they can’t come all the way to us. Or failing that, meet them in a place that is non threatening and comfortable, in order to start that process. The alternative is giving up too easily and I am not prepared to do so before trying my best. Like I said, I am evolving and learning and must get a clear grasp of the source and impact of the destruction before I can, with the help of leaders like your self, to create a viable remedy. Even on a local scale. This is a marathon, not a sprint.

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  3. Everyone that does some negative action action has a story about some past experience to blame. That’s fine once you know what to blame then you can do something about it. We cannot keep intellectualizing and making excuses for bad behaviours of grown people. Adults are responsible for the consequence of their actions period. Doesn’t mean one should not be helped if they seek it. If they don’t too bad life goes on.
    At the start, the functions of life are all performed upon a semiconscious plane. The law of life is for progress, struggle, achievement and realization. The force of this law swings the physical and mental mechanism of Man to its own beneficent purpose and propels them to action. Progress at this stage is on the sub-conscious plane of mentation.
    MAN should ever strive to develop intrinsic worth. Life becomes a song of harmony, Peace and Power, when once you have developed and expanded the Will-power. The education of the Will should be the aim of your life. The pleasure-seeker is an ass. He is ever complaining of his hard lot, of disappointment, of ill-health; he is as a bird bereft of wings, quivering its shattered pinions in its vain attempt to soar up in the sky. He is a leaning willow whose whole structure indicates weakness and dependence. The gods have put their ban upon this twentieth century fever for pleasure. Go into any large assembly of educated men and if you are a true judge of character you will hardly pick out five men out of five hundred with the fine, refined impressive features of Stoic, a heroic soul in an obedient body. The reason is not far to seek. Their chief object is to titillate the nerves of sensation. They never learned the great and important law of Self denial. They are being dragged along by a force far mightier than their feeble selves. They have never said firm No, to their impulses they are mere masks and not men. They are automatic machines. They may have picked up a little odd knowledge; they may have law cunning, but they lack the Affirmative Force of Character, the vim and pith of a Positive Personality, the calm poise of controlled energy. They have never realized the intense joy of a soul that lives only to aspire after what is high and noble. But then Existence is not all a bed of roses. Shocks will come and, when they do, these weaklings are bowled over like so many nine-pins. Then they just sit up and talk of their aching hearts, their bleeding wounds, and their sorrow laden, miserable lives. Their good wishes are as so many soap-bubbles. Their resolutions are mere effervescence of a dying vitality. Their promises the mere ebullitions of emotion minus the stamina to accomplish them. They are the blind worms of fate. They are the victims of wicked-minded men. They are so many will-less, nerve-less weaklings. They are slaves.

    Because, they are in the clutches of Ignorance. Ignorance consists in seeking enjoyment of the senses. To burst the chains that hold you captive, give up, once for ever, the desire To ENJOY, and DETERMINE to positives the Will-Force for the free and smooth-working of the wheels of Progress
    As you learn to control Nature within you, so will you control things outside of yourself, so shall your great, all-potent will shine out to the universe.
    This ascension of the soul is the development of the Spiritual Consciousness.
    It is not intellectualism: nor spiritualism: nor supernaturalism: nor any other ism.

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    1. This statement is illogical and even pretentious. Your argument is the reason why I penned this particular post. In it I sought to extrapolate the deep critical reasons for the emotional retardation evident in many of our brothers and the deep psychological scars left by childhood emotional abuse and neglect. To paint pretty pictures of soaring words does nothing to explain the psychological issues of a type of abuse that is deeper and more pervasive than any physical abuse. Too many African men have been hated on, when they exhibit character flaws, yet the detractors, even the well meaning ones, never see the big picture. They never see or chose not to see the context in which we are placed and the hidden hands that create the environment which conditions our emotional world view, thus creating these character flaws. In fact the character flaw evident in African men are also evident on men of other ethnicity, but based on the hierarchy of power and socialisation, the African man has less to cover his flaws with and less support in covering his flaws. This is not defending the character flaw, this is making critical assessment. The next step is to craft a series of therapeutic sessions t rehabilitate the victim of White Supremacy. Keep in mind we are the only collective trauma victims of the worst…the WORST concentrated victimization known in the world, and have never had proper therapy, compensation or restitution, yet the world, including other African men expect us to just “get over it”!

      Truth is consistent despite opinions. The truth is there is a deeper psychological issue involved in African men acting dysfunctional and environment and early childhood conditioning made it so. The opinions are that we want to be that way and we can change if we want to. Twenty-seven years of field work with youth and working with flawed characters of all sexes and ethnicity tells me that opinions are more harm full than help full.

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  4. The first step to healing and balance is to admit the problem then the healing will begin.
    We can’t chastise anyone for stating that, that is a fact. People who are not ready to admit the problem cant be helped. Once one becomes an adult one is free to make certain choices about one’s life. If we continue to make excuses for bad behaviours by adults. Then why have law, rules and regulations. We don’t know if everyone that made bad decisions did not have some guidance or intervention but looked the other way.
    The universe always seek balance it’s humans that choose imbalance

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    1. To properly diagnose a dis-ease one must first recognize the causative factors. The symptoms are not the causative factors, but evidence of a problem. Saying I have a cold is erroneous and illogical as a cold is a colloquialism for something else. Saying I am going through a detoxing period is closer to a truism, but even that needs definition for people who lack that over standing. To tell African males misbehaving or those with emotional issues to admit you have issues is facetious and mis directed if you think that admittance is enough to deal with over 500 years of psychological beat down. One has to identify the problem and then submit situational corrective measures and follow up to ensure that no relapse happens and that over time the patient gets stronger.

      Nothing comes out of a void, despite what the magic inspired masses may believe. Everything is cause and effect…both illness and healing. I have correctly pointed out that the analysis is incomplete if all you expect is admittance without concise and planned therapy to correct the behaviours. This means dealing with the factors that created the image of the African males in today’s society. I find it irresponsible for African females and some men to absolve them from the problem. After all the adult misbehaving male was a pre-adult misbehaving male, who learned this behaviours from both sexes. This is the admittance that should be encouraged, and then we can start the journey towards Ma’at, through re-programming within the self, the home and the community.

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  5. Thanks for the information. The author made some interesting points, which I would like to address.

    She mention that “…one of the first steps you must take is to face the truth. You can’t be set free while living in denial. You can’t pretend that certain negative things didn’t happen to you.”

    The problem inherent in this is, many people assume confession is good or good enough. This is far from the reality. After you have experienced a long period of incorrect living, confessing may allow you to face and accept the original issues, but what of the steps to rectifying or re-balancing your emotional meter?

    “I’ve come to realize that we’re experts at building walls and stuffing things into dark corners, pretending they never happened. “

    Environment affects and effcts behaviour, which is directly connected to emotion. Thus environment dictates emotions. The inability to emotionaly come to grips with certain incongruity causes us to fie the negative AND the positive away. One as a coping mechanism and the other as a memory to call upon repeatedly.

    “Why don’t we want to bring things like that into the open? We’re afraid of what people will think. We’re afraid of being rejected, misunderstood, or unloved by those we care about or that they might have a different opinion of us if they really knew all about us. “

    The inability to cope rests on our child hood and societal preporation as we grow from cjhild to adult. Every step of the way we need guidence, without which we stumble along and create makeshift mechanism for coping.

    “Nobody can be set free from a problem until they’re willing to admit they have one. An alcoholic, drug addict or anyone who’s lost control of their life is doomed to suffer until they’re able to say, Even though our problems may have been brought upon us because of something done against our will, we have no excuse for allowing the problem to persist, grow and even take control over our entire life.”

    As i attempted to address in the post, African men and women are CONDITIONED to view each other in a negative light, by the powers of White Supremacy, which values a money based economy over comunal and spiritual principles and values. The fact that other areas of the nine peaople activity sphere of influence dictate how we must and do act, compounda the situation and makes in difficult for a woman or a man to act with in their correct selves. Yes, a few may appear healed, but our individual healing is tied to or collective healing…which we are still seeking after 500 years of barbarism by the forces of isfet.

    As social creatures hue-man and human beings are only as fucntional as the scoicall context and ingteraction the engage in. Without which we may as well isolate ourselves like the rishi’s on the Indus-Kush continent, leaving the mondane world. Either that or live out this mundane forever realizing that so many of us are so fucked up…even the apparently sane amongst us, precisly because of our lack of community or group healing. On a smal scale we can and must do this. But what of the grand scale?

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  6. I believe that black men are really sensitive and loving caring being. I always come to the defence when people speak ill of black men. But the western thinking black male in particular is going to have to take a good look at his place in society and examine what is going on and how he plays a role in the negative image that is so persuasive. I know too many black women that are single parents and married one who also have a negative perception of black men. Based on observation and personal experience. Many black men are going to have to examine their actions and how it is destroying their families particularly the children. Regardless of the childhood experiences once one reaches adulthood and have control over one’s life you can change what you don’t like or what makes you unhappy all it takes is the courage to do so or ask for help to change. Women expect men to provide discipline, order and protect the family. Respect comes when one conducts oneself in a respectful and manner acting with dignity and good character.
    Attached is an article worth pondering and a good article to share with friends and family.

    Face the Truth!
    by Joyce Meyer
    Today, people everywhere are struggling through life with damaged emotions. They’ve endured a lot of negative things, causing untold damage that needs to be dealt with. But all too often, these hurts are simply swept under the rug in an attempt to make them go away.

    Through my own life experiences and from many years of helping others through this process, I’ve discovered that although God wants to help those who really want emotional healing, there are some very important steps these individuals must take for themselves. If you want to receive emotional healing, one of the first steps you must take is to face the truth. You can’t be set free while living in denial. You can’t pretend that certain negative things didn’t happen to you.

    I’ve come to realize that we’re experts at building walls and stuffing things into dark corners, pretending they never happened.

    I spent the first eighteen years of my life in an abusive environment, but as soon as I got away from that situation, I acted as though nothing was wrong. I never told anyone what had gone on in my private life.

    Why don’t we want to bring things like that into the open? We’re afraid of what people will think. We’re afraid of being rejected, misunderstood, or unloved by those we care about or that they might have a different opinion of us if they really knew all about us.

    The next step toward emotional healing is confessing your faults. I think there’s a place for eventually sharing with someone else the things that have occurred in our lives. There’s something about verbalizing it to another person that does wonders for us—but use wisdom. Choose someone you know you can trust. Be sure that by sharing your story with someone else, you don’t simply put your burden on that individual’s shoulders. Also, don’t go on a digging expedition, trying to dig up old hurts and offenses that have been buried and forgotten.

    When I finally worked up the courage to share with someone what had happened early in my life, I actually began shaking violently in fear. It was an emotional reaction to the things I’d kept buried within me for so long. Now when I talk about my past, it’s as though I’m talking about somebody else’s problems. Because I’ve been healed and restored, my past doesn’t bother me anymore.

    Finally, you must assume some personal responsibility. Some people are trapped in denial, afraid of what might happen if others find out the truth. But as long as they deny the past, they’re never going to be free from it.

    Nobody can be set free from a problem until they’re willing to admit they have one. An alcoholic, drug addict or anyone who’s lost control of their life is doomed to suffer until they’re able to say, “I’ve got a problem, and I need help with it.”

    Even though our problems may have been brought upon us because of something done against our will, we have no excuse for allowing the problem to persist, grow and even take control over our entire life. Our past experiences may have made us the way we are, but we don’t have to stay that way. We can take the initiative by taking positive steps to change things—and we can ask for God’s help. Whatever your problem may be, face it, consider confessing it to a trusted friend, and then admit it to yourself.

    Face the truth—it can be the beginning of a happier life!

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