Joy and Pain


“Ifá is a system of divination and refers to the verses of the literary overstanding known as the Odu Ifá. Orunmila is identified as the Grand Priest, as he is who revealed divinity and prophecy to the world. As it was explained to me by a priest, Ifa is neither reLIEgion, science or politics. Yet contained in Ifa one could be mistaken in believing that there is science, politics or reLIEgion. This is because most people apply their current understanding and worldview to Ifa, instead of embracing its truth from where they stand.

Through divination one is directed to a story where you either the protagonist or the antagonist. You are told that if you follow THIS path, THIS will happen. But if you follow THAT path, THAT will happen.

Our story cautions us that pain is a natural part of our existence, based on the choices we made prior to leaving the spiritual realm to enter this world. We are asked to choose a particular set of circumstances before coming through the feminine portal. However we forget what we asked for and instead of maximizing the choices we made and have,  we envy the other choices we did not make. And we experience pain.

We ask for riches or power or attractiveness, but we instead envy longevity, full health or compassion. So we experience the pain of lack. Focusing on our lack, instead of our gifts, because we refuse to be happy where we are.

We all have things that we’ve lived for, dreams that we want to accomplish, hoping things will turn around. To see our family intact. To lose some weight, stop and addiction, to start our own family. Sometimes, as it goes on, month after month, year after year, we don’t see anything changing. And when we see things never-changing we say to ourselves, this is as good as it gets and we are just going to have to “live with it”.

We all go through disappointments, loss, set backs. Pain is a part of life. It’s easy to get discouraged and ask “why is this happening to me”? Sometimes when we look at pieces of our lives that don’t make sense. The key is what we do in our times of pain. Pain WILL change us. Heartaches, loss, disappointments. They don’t leave us the same as before. Every painful episodes we experience, even if we don’t like them, is developing something in us that can only be developed in the tough times.

Eventually all that will pass. But you will be different. In the tough times when you are uncomfortable. Going through a loss, a divorce, an illness. You can easily let it overwhelm you. How the pain changes you….is up to you! You could come out bitter or you could come out better. You could come out defeated, giving up on your dreams, or you could come out with renewed passion, a new fire, excited about the new possibilities in front of you.

In times of pain, don’t ask for things to change. As that you be better.

You may not like it, but instead of being a whiner be a warrior and believe you can handle it. Don’t complain about the pain, for without the pain, we couldn’t reach the fullness of our destinies.

Sometimes we bring the pain upon ourselves. We make poor choices, get into relationships we know is not good, get over our heads in our spending, now we are having to deal with the consequences. All of us experience pain. The challenge is not to just go through it, but grow through it. See it as an opportunity to get stronger, to develop character, to gain new confidence to never give up.

Anybody can let the pain overwhelm you. But all that’s doing is wasting your pain. That pain is not there to stop you. It’s there to prepare you, to increase you, to develop you. Difficulties are a part of life. So might as well quit telling yourself you can’t take it. You are not weak. You are well able. Eventually the pain will pass. You will give birth to new strength. Just because it hasn’t happened yet, doesn’t mean it’s not gonna happen.

There will always be forces trying to convince us to settle where we are as a way of pushing our dreams down. Your dreams can become buried under discouragements. Under past mistakes. Buried under divorce, under low self-esteem. Its easy to settle for mediocrity even though we have all these potential buried on the inside. Those memories of the hurt and pain must be turned around to remember your dream. Have you allowed any dreams to get buried in you? At one time you thought you could do something great, lead the company in sales, break that addiction.

Its been a long time. You have had some bad breaks, you could easily settle where you are and nobody could fault you. Your enemies would love to deceive you into burying your dreams, thinking you will never succeed. Don’t belive their lies. It’s never too late to become all that you were created to be. Every time you remember your dreams, you are removing some dirt. You are digging your dreams back out. The true mark of a champion is despite new dirt getting thrown on your dreams, instead of letting it get buried, you keep shaking it off. You keep moving forward.

You wouldn’t be having these opposition if you didn’t have something great in you

If your dream wasn’t right on track. Just ready to come to fruition, you wouldn’t have so many things coming against you. Know that your dream is still alive. You may have tried a year ago or five years ago or forty years ago. It didn’t work out. Nobody was there to help you…go back and try again.

This is your time, your moment, your destiny is calling out to you. Your dream is not dead, it’s just not in season. And every thing has a season. Your time is coming, good breaks are coming, that good job is coming, promises you have been standing on. Good things you have been dreaming about. Lack is not your destiny. Struggling and getting by is not the end of your life. These afflictions are for a moment. Your adversity is temporary but the glory is eternal.