Street Prostitution

 

The Poverty factor

In the tourist industry across the so called “third World”, the confluence of poverty and sex trade is an intersection that give rise to drugs abuse, child abuse, heterosexual and homosexual pedophilia. Children working on the street are a particularly vulnerable group to prostitution. These children lack family and social support, and small boys between the ages of 6 and 17 years are the most exploited. Lacking the protection of adult family members or institutional environment for positive supports, these vulnerable and poor children, mainly school dropouts, are exposed to extreme economic deprivation and abuse.

 

[The many cases of child sex scandals abound in places where poverty and tourism is heaviest, but also in non tourist parts of the world, such as England, Russia, Canada and good old USA.]  


Homosexual adult are the main clients of these young boys, although some of the adolescents’ prostitutes are females. The inability of these boys to meet certain basic needs because of a lack of financial opportunities has created a desperation that severely reduces their ability to bargain with adult clients. The adults then exploit this needs and dependency by coercing some boys into sexual activities. Reports of boys engaging in sexual intercourse in exchange for a basic meal of a patty and a box drink are common. The real risks of physical violence from their peers on the streets and other adults become high due to Jamaica’s strong dislike for homosexual culture. Teenage and pre-teen homosexual activities are kept under cover, thus making them invisible to other children involved in prostitution and make them less accessible for rehabilitation and support.

In Jamaica, a new type of prostitution phenomenon called the “toy boy”, has emerged. Schoolboys are enticed by gifts and other monetary rewards from older women for sexual pleasures. These women sometimes pick up the boys at school on Friday afternoons and keep them for the entire weekend while engaging them in various types of sexual activities, then taking them back to school on Monday mornings. The boys are showered with expensive gifts of jewellery, brand name sneakers and expensive clothes. They are sometimes taken to the North Coast for vacation. This practice occurs with boys who are less supervised at home or living on their own while one or both parents have migrated. Sometimes this behaviour even happens in homes where both parents are present. The parents are aware of these dalliances and are even accepting of it. Others are completely unaware of what is happening because of the ingenious methods that the boys employ to cover their tracks.

Although often hidden and frequently denied by political and community leaders, men sell sex to other men in Jamaica just like many other countries. Young men and boys are more likely to be involved in sex work than older males for a variety of reasons. While money is usually the driving force, some young men, particularly in cultures where sex between men is strongly abhorred, sell sex because that is the only way they can find survive. The younger the male sex worker is, the less he is to be able to protect himself a variety of abuses including sexual y transmitted disease. The lure of payment, physical or emotional force from the client, or the craving for a drug, which the money will buy, can force young men to agree to sex without a condom. Older more experienced sex workers are likely to have the confidence and assertiveness to negotiate safer sex.

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Due to the prevalence of homosexual activity as a matter of survival on the Island, these boys become sexually abused as homosexual males, in straight guise pick up the boys in expensive automobiles. As usual, the establishment and the Jamaica Constabulary Force claimed to have no report of these incidents. In Jamaica, the modern prostitute are no longer only female, as there are a growing number of men and children who have either worked their way in, or forced into the sex work industry. The reality in the Jamaican society is that children have been encouraged or forced by their parents to sell their bodies for money and favours. Many Jamaican women, for years have been content with the understanding that their teenaged daughters are sexually involved with mature men, old enough to be their fathers, in exchange for taking care of the family.  In fact the well known secret is that a majority of the teenaged mothers are impregnated by adult males, old enough to be their grandfathers. What is not known is that there are Jamaican women who will send their daughters and sons out nightly to prostitute themselves and take home the money. Many of these children are not allowed back into the home unless a certain amount of money is made nightly.

Too many of these children, some of them boys, have to sell their bodies to adult males in order for their families to survive. These boys perform sexual acts with these predators who take advantage of them without paying. They end up being exposed to HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STI), because they admit to not use condoms, a practice the adult predators seldom don’t do. The result of all these forced prostitution creates severe emotional and psychological problems for the youth due to careless parenting and caregivers who have become pimps instead of providers.

Incest and Rape in Jamaica

From the Jamaican Observor

http://www.jamaica-gleaner.com/gleaner/20060305/out/out1.html

Centre for reproductive law comes out with 2001 study of sexual abuse against Jamaican women.

Infant incest! Four-month-old molested – Medical reveals damage to baby’s private parts

http://www.jamaica-star.com/thestar/20060704/news/news1.html

Worth re-printing

By O’Brien Dennis
Published Mar 30, 2005

I don’t understand the dynamics of homosexuality and frankly I don’t care what two consenting adult males do in private. I am however concerned about a man taking advantage of an innocent child and taking his mind into a state of sexual confusion. Male rape is not remote to any one social culture, it spans across all cultural, economical and religious lines and it is a crime against humanity that affects all of us.Sexual abuse is all about power. It is when a person in authority forces you to perform sexual acts for him or her. Sexual abuse goes far beyond penal intrusion; it may range from the use of explicit pictures and language, to kissing and touching. It is a violation of your mind and body and it is something used to keep you in a continued state of vulnerability.On the tiny island of Jamaica and to a greater extent, cultures within the African Diaspora, victims of male sexual abuse are considered homosexuals. This is a myth. A sexual act of violence can not make a child or a grown man a homosexual. When an adult threatens, seduces you or forces you to commit sexual acts it does not mean you are a homosexual. Even if you were aroused or helped him in the process, it was still not your fault. You never had a choice in being abused.As a child growing up in Jamaica I yearned constantly for an adult male to come public about being sexually abused as a child. It wasn’t until I journeyed to the United States that I met upon grown Jamaican men who have fled Jamaica and are now candid about childhood sexual abuse. It is difficult for males in general to talk about sexual abuse because of the stigma attached to the sexual act. You believe at times that you are alone but the truth is you are not. You feel weak and defenseless each time you think about the abuse. Talking about male sexually abused gives you the individual strength and it helps you to realize that it was not your fault. It also encourages others to speak up and renew their strength.

Male sexual abuse in Jamaica unfortunately is not on the decline; it is gradually increasing and grossly under-reported. Jamaica’s cultural values, which include religion, music and our political framework has been a major deterrent in forcing young boys and men to be silent about sexual abuse. Society has narrowly defined masculinity and expects its boys to be fearless, strong, always in control and defenders. It becomes threatening at times for boys and men within society to display supposedly feminine qualities. To be a man and to be masculine is an ongoing process of growth which last until death. Most young men who have been sexually abused question their masculinity.

What abuse does is to steal your authentic self and bring you in a state of confusion, fear, anger and denial. Who is a man? Slavery has robbed Jamaica of its men and many young boys grow up fatherless or without a male figure. Men do cry. Men do feel hurt. Men do feel weak at times. It is the notion of false masculinity and gender roles that confuse children about who a man is and what it means to be masculine. It is inner strength for a man to show emotion and to express his inner self rather than unleashing his built-up anger in a negative way. Untapped emotions are dangerous for men as it sometimes forces them in a bar-less prison. Boys who were sexually abused have indirectly been taught to not trust men and to be afraid of men.

Sexual violation has long been used as a method of emasculation. Two of the most common reasons males don’t report abuses are that they fear to be seen as weak and at worst a homosexual. Sexual abuse has no correlation with sexual orientation. Homophobia has forced many young men to shake the abuse off, keep it to themselves buried in a pile of expectation and denial. Denial at times forces some of these men to numb their pain by engaging in homosexual activities out of sexual confusion and thus resulting in some men being bisexual.

Engaging in homosexual activities as a result of sexual abuse does not make a man gay or bisexual. Labels concerning sexual orientation have a very interesting dynamics to them as to be a homosexual far exceeds the sexual act. Most sexual abusers are male and do consider themselves to be heterosexuals.

It is imperative for us as a society to acknowledge male sexual abuse. Men work twice as hard as women to hide sexual abuse. I have spoken to too many men who have internalized sexual abuse. Men sometimes find relief by sedating themselves with alcohol or drugs or they become physically abusive or turn to sexual violence. Boys rarely talk about abuse and as a society we have a responsibility to our children to talk to them about sexuality and appropriate touch. Most offenders are not strangers and over 80% of offenders are known to the child.

Cries of Men: Voices of Jamaican Men Who Have Been Raped and Sexually Abused
by O’Brien Denni

 

Sexual abuse of girls and women
published: Wednesday | March 12, 2008

Jamiacan Gleaner
Monique Rainford

A few weeks ago, I was exposed to the email mentioned in a Gleaner article with attached material showing intercourse between students at a high school. I was shocked and sickened by the parts of the email that I saw.

As a physician and, in particular a gynaecologist, a few issues came to mind. One such was the psychological make up of the young lady who would agree to have sex in such a public place whether or not she knew that the event was filmed, and the young boy, was he also a victim himself or a sexual offender. Could they both be victims of sexual abuse or some other form of childhood abuse?

I recall during my first year in private practice in Jamaica, a young lady came into my office; she was under 18 years and she reported that she was a victim of childhood sexual abuse from her stepfather. She had no confidence in the group homes for such victims because she believed that it was worse than her present situation. She wanted me to help. I made inquires and suggested an alternative facility. I must admit I felt powerless to help her. However, it is clear that we all need to continue to try our best to decrease these offences and improve the long-term prognosis of these children.

Childhood sexual abuse affects about one per cent of children in the United States every year and it is a very prevalent condition in Jamaica. Unfortunately, at this time, our prevalence data is not available but with mandatory reporting this is likely to change in the near future. Available data suggest that men are the abusers most of the times. Up to half of the abusers of girls are family members and adolescents are the offenders in more than 20 per cent of cases.

Obscene telephone calls
Some teenage sex offenders use the telephone to make obscene calls. – File

Adolescent sexual offenders are teenagers between the ages of 13-17 who perform illegal sexual behaviour, including intercourse or acts such as even obscene telephone calls. They are more likely to be male than female and the victims are more likely to be females. The cause of this behaviour is unknown but children who are physically abused are more likely to exhibit this behaviour. Other associated factors include alcohol or other drug abuse, family difficulties, a history of sexual abuse and exposure to pornographic material.

Victims of sexual abuse are more likely to become promiscuous and have thoughtless sexual acts. The younger that a girl starts having consensual sex, the more likely it is that she had been forced to have sex in the first instance. Some health conditions in adult women can be linked to a history of childhood sexual abuse. These include chronic pelvic (belly bottom) pain, certain eating disorders such as anorexia nervosa, depression and anxiety. It can also have a very negative effect on a woman’s self esteem. It addition, it may affect her ability to form normal, healthy adult relationships.

Seek counselling

If a parent is concerned that their daughter is being sexually abused or is sexually active they should consider taking her to the doctor for evaluation. Unfortunately, a physical exam does not always confirm sexual abuse even in young girls. However, the visit may facilitate counselling and testing for sexual transmitted infections. If she is an older girl, the consultation may help to clarify whether she considered the act consensual or rape. In Jamaica, it is illegal for anyone to have sex with a girl who is under the age of 16.

If a woman is suffering because she had been abused in the past she should consult her doctor or church to assist in getting the appropriate counselling.

Dr Monique Rainford is a consulting obstetrician and gynaecologist; email: yourhealth@gleanerjm.com

Queen Ifrica – Daddy


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I know this is only a blog, but as I write, i get more information than I barganed for and have  enough materials for an extention of this article.  However, the issue of sexual abuse in Jamaica, in general, and child sex abuse in particular is a troubling one and does have a seriously negative effect on the culture and the legacy of Jamaica. I am sure many of you know of other African people- not just Jamaicans- who have been abused in this fashion.

Perhaps you have been yourself. How do you or are you coping with it. i have created a blog for survivors of sexual abuse to post anonymously if they want, to share their experience with others and perhaps get some healing .  click here to view it start sharing.

9 thoughts on “Killing Me Softly: The poison of Child sexual abuse…continued

  1. The comment about secrecy and privacy is from
    The Guide
    by Eva Pierrakos
    June 14, 1978
    Copyright 1978, the Center for the Living Force, Inc.

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  2. Abuse must be exposed to be healed
    Privacy is a legitimate need of the soul. You need to be by and with yourself. You need time alone in which you can delve into your depths and find new levels of inner reality, undisturbed by influences and vibrations from others, even the most favorable. At times you even need periods during which what you essentially desire to share with all your loved ones needs to be kept to yourself, until it ripens sufficiently for sharing. Whether it is a thought, a new state of consciousness, or an artistic creation, it may need time to complete itself before being opened to others.

    Now what about secrecy? Secrecy is never positive, at least not in its real sense. We are not talking of the so-called “secret” one keeps to prepare a lovely surprise for a loved one. This is not really a secret, for it is finally revealed as a joyful occasion. Secrets always hide something negative, otherwise they would not be kept secret. This is very important to realize. Although it is quite obvious and not at all obscure or subtle or difficult to recognize, it is surprising how often this fact is totally overlooked. Whatever the secret may be that you wish to keep from another, or others, if you look closer it will not be difficult to discern that you wish to hide something that is not palatable to someone. Either it is you who wishes to keep something hidden from others, or it is another person who wishes to involve you into keeping something negative or destructive hidden. If these hidden things — the secrets — were revealed, they could be dealt with, they could be totally dissolved so that a beautiful positive creation could take their place. But by keeping the secret, negative thoughts, dishonest actions, maligning, and destructive behavior patterns are being maintained and continually nurtured.

    The person who has a stake in keeping something secret — either by himself or in conjunction with another person or other persons — is perfectly well aware of the fact that it is something negative he is hiding, otherwise he would not need to keep it secret at all, whatever it may be. To plead righteousness about the keeping of a secret is therefore absurd. But what usually happens is that privacy is being used to camouflage the intent to keep secrets. In other words, the secretive person will use his right and need for privacy in order to conceal that he really keeps something secret. Thus the weapon of the forces of darkness is always to confuse and use a truth to cover up a lie.

    The true concept of privacy never implies keeping secrets. In fact, just the opposite is true. What is divinely inspired and ripens in privacy is later always opened up, shared with others, and given on. It is never meant to hide. Only dishonesty, lies, negative intentionality, destructiveness of one sort or another, need to be hidden from others. Nothing that is true and beautiful needs to be kept secret. Not ever.

    Keeping secrets is therefore always, in the final analysis, a theft. It is a cheating action that wants to secure a result that cannot or will not come about if the secret is disclosed. Keeping secrets also means to avoid effort and responsibility to find an equitable, honest, and truthful solution in which the other or others can participate.

    Secrets are always antithetical to relationship, to intimacy, to real and fulfilling contact. The secretive person is never fulfilled emotionally. He keeps a wall of separation between himself and others and then wonders why he feels so alone and misunderstood. It never occurs to him to put two and two together. He often blames others for his state and uses this to justify his secretiveness, instead of doing the only valid, meaningful, and intelligent thing: to spill out all secrets and make himself as transparent as is possible. This is not an easy or quick thing to achieve. It requires patience, time, effort, and all the good will that can be mustered.

    This Path is clearly designed to gradually but surely eliminate all secrets. First you learn to no longer have secrets from yourself. You experience that there exists a great deal of material that you had ignored, that was unconscious, that was kept secret from your conscious mind. Then you learn to apply the same honesty and openness you have acquired toward yourself also toward others. If you go that way steadily, you cannot help experiencing that this is the only way to be. It is the only way your need for contact can be fulfilled; the only way you can live without fear and anxiety, without shame and hiding, without pretense and facades. The relief of this kind of living is a much headier wine than any pseudo-solution could ever be. Those who have begun to taste it can no longer revert back to secret living for any length of time in any area or respect, no matter what may come up.

    Wanting to preserve your secret, on the other hand, clearly indicates that you have no commitment to the truth, probably not even to the truth that you have a stake in maintaining your negative opinions, accusations and suspicions, and that you desire to continue doing this precisely because deep inside you already know that you are not in truth; but you do not wish to admit this.

    Keeping negative aspects secret makes it impossible to reveal the best of self. One feels embarrassed about oneself; one’s innermost thoughts, dreams, and desires feel shameful. To begin with, these aspects are often far from shameful or bad. They become negative because they are enveloped in a veil of secrecy. Merely believing that there is something to hide creates an aura of fog, a darkness that gradually encompasses the best in the person. It is therefore essential that this fog be dissolved, whether what is hidden is outright negative or has only become so as a result of being hidden.

    The process of dissolving the hidden secrets is the essence of the work you already do on this Path. Muster the courage to expose what was hitherto a secret. In no way have you ever regretted this step. For having taken it, you have always found more love, more respect, more friendship, more help, more recognition of your real values, not to speak of the relief of losing an unbearable burden. The clarity, the lightness, and the freedom of no longer pretending in any way are the direct doorway to the self-esteem you so desperately tried to create and to preserve by hiding.

    Self-revelation, openness, transparency is a new way of being, a habit that needs to be cultivated with patience, devotion, and perseverance. It is of great importance for you and for those around you with whom you long to relate. It is an art that can and needs to be learned. Often the hesitancy and the inhibitions that exist at the start can be removed when you learn how to express yourself; when you learn how to convey what at first seems unconveyable. Has it not frequently occurred to you that you relayed a dream quite adequately once you started it, although you were first convinced that it could not be explained? Thoughts and attitudes, experiences and feelings within the four walls of your inner self seem so vague, so diffused, so unexplainable that you do not even attempt to convey them. But once you know it is possible to do so, even if you cannot perfectly convey all of the shadings and nuances involved, you will make the effort to communicate and you will be surprised to what extent you can make yourself clear; by opening up yourself, you can reach others who may have quite similar inner experiences and thus can emotionally connect with you sooner and better than you may have ever suspected.

    Let us examine the quality of the various human relationships in the light of this topic. The most intimate of all relationships — between a man and woman who love each other and intend to share themselves with one another completely — depends on the ability to be without secrets. This includes the outer ones, as well as the inner, more subtle ones. If the risk is not taken to bring all aspects of the self into play, the bliss that is expected can never materialize. I have discussed this before, specifically in connection with the relationship between mates. I need to repeat it here in the context of the personality’s general tendency to keep the self secret. The false belief that the self in its entirety is not acceptable must be challenged again and again. The risk needs to be taken repeatedly, step by step, until all is out in the open. Then true sharing of the inner process can begin and an ongoing communication can be established.

    At first you are bound to find that a great deal of residual material has been accumulated. Once this is emptied out and all of you is made known, the process will take over. For the soul is not static or fixed. It constantly moves and changes, forever producing new inner experiences, new feelings, new thought material, new dreams, new aims. Once you have emptied yourself, the dynamic process of soul development can be shared much more easily. The art of communicating, of self-expression, of explaining yourself adequately grows as you grow. Thus you become an increasingly open channel for divine inspiration; this will affect your choice of words, the finer shades and distinctions that seem so difficult to put into words, as well as the tone of voice that also contributes to making yourself clear. Thus what was once a confined prison of your inner self becomes a wide open field that reaches the infinite horizons of divine possibilities, and that is ever more clearly available for all others. A state of mind grows in which there is nothing to hide, in which hiding seems utterly absurd and being totally transparent is the greatest joy.

    The word friendship becomes a farce if you feel there is anything to hide between yourself and the friend. It is at best very limited. And you will never really know whether you are loved and accepted. You must always fear and distrust, as long as you don’t take the risk to show the friend all you are, all you have kept hidden. But this, of course, always includes the basic willingness to change what is a lower self act, a lower self goal, a lower self activity. It requires the trust that higher self goals and activities will provide you much better with what you need. If this trust is lacking, then this is what you need to share and perhaps receive help with.

    So, my beloved friends, when the walls of separation and secretiveness fall from you, you step out into a beautiful world of light, of goodness, of singing joy, of eternal life, of fearless existence. This world can only exist in a defenseless person, who is free from armoring, who does not deny the soft vulnerability that can experience all suffering created by the forces of evil. If you harden yourself against this kind of pain, you also deny the joy that is meant to be yours for all eternity.

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  3. Abuse of children is something that has to be healed, if its not it has devastating impact on the victim. Some people come from generations of abuse. I find it quite interesting the amount of people who are on dating or sex sites looking for sex using the word dating when its prostitution. Also living out the racial sex taboos Housewives, office workers etc. Wonder how many of these people are abuse victims.

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  4. I was sexually abused for 7 years by older boys in the neighborhood where I grew up. I was also beaten by a psychotic father from my earliest memories until age 15. I have made two videos that have been used by churches, law enforcement, psychology grps, etc.

    Here they are if you are interested. ANYONE has permission to post and/or embed these, or use them for groups, etc.

    A Childhood Changed:

    The Aftermath:

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  5. Peace

    You know…the more I do research, the more I discover, the more I realize that we are in a serious state of isfet. Afriacn consciousness really never tackled this the way telling of our “glorious” past does. It’s a shame because African our story is then, now and the future, but we can’t go into the future broken in spirit and mind.

    This is new venture for me (outside of politics) but I want to see where it will take me. You have challenged me to tackle a very sensitive subject and I am wiser for that.

    Asante sana

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  6. Peace,
    This is a step in the right direction to help our people heal; this can no longer be hidden away or just mention in passing. Black people are going to have to deal with this. Good job nuff respect for doing this article I knew the
    Ancestors led me to this blog for a reason. I hope you get the blog going soon where victims can share their stories so they can ease their pain and start the healing process. The whole issue of sexuality and black people in recent history is an interesting and complex one but I think as a people we have become too sexualized at very early ages and sex obsessed. I am only now starting to realize the extent of how many black women will sneak around sexually with married men, the boss, co-workers, their friends or family member’s man. I wasn’t naive that this was going on but the revelation of the extent is shocking to me I had held most black women to a higher standard.
    Peace
    Spirit

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