This phenomena of promoting and marketing a father’s day cards to sole support mothers, or mothers who are primary in the child’s or children’s lives is a product of a society that is rabidly anti-feminine, anti-masculine and anti-family. It is a product of a society and culture whose sole purpose is to destroy the wholesomeness of what a family means in the traditional sense of the male, female and the product of that union. I confess that there are many variation of the family theme, where your homeboys, home girls, team member or even criminal enclave can and do act as sort of a family in the sense of giving comfort and social relevance to individuals and group identity, outside of their immediate ones. But the traditional family is where the planet and countless millennia of people hang their hats and very existence on.
This is the circle that was and still continues to be under attack by those who hate the feminine and by extension her relationship with the masculine and the union of that relationship. In this post feminazi society, created firstly by a homosexual fifth column and supported by various government whose hidden agenda is to (a) depopulate the planet (b) economically enslave people and (c) to disrupt the family structure so that those points above can be easily achieved. In this sense the separation of the principles of the family structure is and was imperative for the agenda to come to fruition. The removal and demonization of the father and what fatherhood is about in modern society was necessary to create this new enslaved class of men, women and children. The demonization and marginalization of fathers, achieved an insidious low with the introduction, by Hall Mark of father’s day cards for mothers and the encouragement of females to celebrate father’s day, patting themselves on the back for a ‘job well done”.
The two articles above succinctly highlighted how innocuous it is for a female to take credit and act as if she is a father, when biologically, spiritually and emotionally, she can never be a father. Yet there are numerous females, stubborn to the core, arrogant to the core, who will not overstand this message but like bratty children will insist that if they don’t get their way, they will throw themselves on the ground and scream and throw a tantrum until everybody else gives in. Being a mother is a difficult job as it is. Being a mother without the child’s father there to share the economic and social burden of child rearing is even more burdensome. Yet many of these same females did not just copulate with thirsty, immature sperm donors. Many of these females now considered “single”, are either divorced, experienced the end of a relationship in an unpleasant way or had a child due to a calculated design to entrap a man and finding the plan foiled will go into anger mode, using the children as weapons against the man.
Even to say that some of these men deliberately chose to be absent is one of those lies if told often enough develops a life of its own. This is the deficient emotional vacuum that hall mark and other entities jump into to further drive a wedge into the already troubled waters of a fractured family order, in this post feminazi western society. Why can’t a mother be a father? The same way a father can’t be a mother. And that is because the universe makes no mistake. Nature already designed her and him to be two parts of a whole, that when come together create a beautiful and endearing thing….oh! And they also produce children. From a biological point of view, the male initiate the creation process. He fuses the DNA into the sperm and sets the ball rolling and through the impregnation of the egg, passes the baton to the female, who fashions and completes the creative process, designating whether the living entity is male or female.
Yet despite what has previously been propagandized to illiterate and ignorant people, fatherhood doesn’t end there. In order to overstand what fatherhood is for us, the original dark matter people, we have to step outside of the European specific cultural mode and practice Sankofa. We have to go back to fetch the overstanding of fatherhood from an Afrikan perspective. We have to take that overstanding and bring it back to now so that we can be better able to prepare for a tomorrow that seems bleaker than we think.
Fatherhood from Afrikan perspective is one that was damaged by European Imperial wars and the social and psychological colonization of dark matter people across the planet. Furthermore the change in employment and means of economic stability created by the industrial age machination, the introduction of a paradigm shift in political and social attacks on culture of maleness in society and sexual politics, all play a role in diminishing and set aside what fatherhood is about. Socialism, capitalism and unnatural sexual politics convene to shatter the relevancy and importance of fatherhood and have reduced it to a biological waste dump. This attack is not just on Afrikan fatherhood, but on other cultures, including the Caucasian circle. Nor are the unhealthy sexual practices relegated just to homosexuality, as we see the rise in the porn industry views and participation, the objectification of the feminine even to sell shoes, the promotion of irresponsible and reckless recreational sex, from pre-school to new school and the legislating of what it means to be a father in this society. This includes in vitro fertilization as a choice instead of a medical emergency, as well as the celebration of the so called “single” motherhood as a badge of independence and honor instead of unfortunate circumstances.
****** An aside note. There is a current movement to remove the term husband and wife from the lingua franca of the work place, as certain elements have taken umbrage with that usage. The preferred language will be substituted as spouse and partner, so that those who refuse to use the husband and wife designate won’t feel threatened or discriminated against.
As Afrikan male and female….we need each other to do this, we must restore and redefine the overstandings of what it means to be father. As previously stated, there has been a worldwide change in the way men’s roles in the family and the care of children are conceived and perceived, which partly emanates from politics and economics. This is partly the result of the changing nature of employment associated with post-industrial economics and globalization, as well as changes in the nature and composition of families and finally changes in people’s value for life. Our modern way of life should be the same as traditional African way of life. This must be reinstituted in order to create a wholesome, emotionally balanced and socially progressive unit. Not a group of shattered individuals who are each going their separate way in order to achieve group unity
In traditional African culture, fathers are considered the head of the family. They are considered provider and protector of the family, as it is the physical and psychological nature of normally functional male. Even within lower primates, the male species are considered the provider and protector of the territory. Of course the anti authentic man factions will try to point to, for example, the female lion who traditionally hunts, in packs mind you, while the male stays home and protect the cubs. However phenomena’s like this is nature’s way of balancing out the fact that a male lion grows up to 500 lbs. And while that is a hefty load, it is very difficult to be an agile, swift hunter and fighter in small spaces when your ass is that heavy. The anti authentic male factions will also take umbrage with the notion of the male being the head of the house or family, but studies indicate that up to 60%-75% of African men, in a traditional family, perform the role of providing for the family. More African men not just on the continent, would rather work extra hard to provide for children and wives. Most African men who changed their career attributed this fact to their desire to provide for a better life and guidance for their children. In many older African societies, elderly fathers are seen as arbitrators and dispensers of judgement when the necessity of such a task was needed. The power of the father to adjudicate within the confines of the family and the society empowers them to settle disputes of any kind. Also, the power to make decision and prosecute crimes makes African men the first and final arbiter of justice in their communities. And when a dispute is difficult to settle, men usually send the matter to the village head of the clan or the linage chiefs. Now what would designate men to be the best choices as judges in disputes? This is not a physical thing, it’s not because he was a penis. Men have the capacity, primarily, to make cold, hard decisions that most women don’t have. This is why I have always stated that in an ideal situation, women love unconditionally and men with conditions. It is that ability to make cold hard decisions that enabled us as men to forge civilization out of harsh environments and establish dynasties, whether through wars are other similar means.
Fathers in African culture represent strength, energy, hardness and toughness. Women send the ‘white sheep’ of the family to them for disciplinary measures. On one hand, mothers in African culture represent softness, caring and gentleness, all great and wonderful attributers necessary for nurturing and creating life. Having the two parents in a child’s life, balance the child’s developmental stages. The balance of nurturing (softness) from the mother and the balance of hardness (toughness) from the father, compliments in proper upbringing. Without this balance, children in African culture will grow imbalanced in perspectives and in a dysfunctional society, become ultimately dysfunctional. Children without developmental balance from parents turn out to stubborn, truant and society’s outlaws. This is why the refrain “wait till your father gets home” or the idea of fathers being dispensers of punishment is often a common theme in household from one corner of the planet to the other.
In traditional African society, the model of masculinity which stresses responsibility, protection, provision, wisdom and communal loyalty may very well be better suited to sustain life and generate family harmony. Havocs wrought by the African Holocaust, the new age industrial economy, gender and ethnic politics are responsible for the breakdown of the family unit in our community. African men who fail to respond to these challenges take refuge in substance abuse and other irresponsible behaviour in an attempt to hold on to their shattered expectation of man hood and fatherhood. Afrikan women who fail to overstand this and who unconsciously or actively contribute to an already broken masculinity, become responsible for the suffering of the children and for rising a new generation of broken psyches. Under these premise the over all process of a balanced and nurturing parenting and any relationship with the children suffers.
Men in traditional, none agrarian African culture, choose fatherhood at mid-age of their lives. Usually at ages 30, 35, or 40. In fact in ancient Afrikan cultures, 49 is a time when a man is considered fully matured based on the rites of passage and the stages of life lessons learned. At this period, majority of them are considered matured enough to establish their own families. Anti Afrikan elements in the socialist circles for instance, in their pursuit of elevating the female’s socio-economic and academic profile in western societies consider the man being the head of the house as a patriarchal state of being, which is to say unnecessary and outdated, in a post feminazi society. It is too easy to point to Afrikan culture as being patriarchal, based on a European frame of reference, because Afrikan cultural traditions and narrative is more than an hierarchy, where men usually sat at the pinnacle in the pecking order followed by the eldest son, other male relatives, with women and children coming last. Afrikan traditional society also had a circular or communal state where consensus was arrived at through input from a diverse set of individuals, including female elders and healers who often were also females. African Family hierarchy is a contradiction to the Western feminist ideologies. In essence, the father was the authority, the symbol of leadership and custodian of the ultimate power and responsibility in the family and the community at large. If the man was the arbiter and dispenser of judgement; the protector and provider of the family and society in general, then he needed to be given the necessary space and respect as authority figure in the house.
This respect is viewed by the female and male as a necessary part of a structure that had been tried and true in creating a stable society. The concept of a father as one with ultimate authority and responsibility was central to the determination of the role of men in the traditional African family and society. This concept sees the father as a head, ruler of the family, founder of a colony, religion, business or tribe. Fatherhood in African society honors the father or the eldest male as the head of the family or tribe, descent and kinship. They are heir to the throne and they possess inheritance rights. This is why African tribe and kinship are traced through male metamorphosis. Don’t be confused because with great power comes great responsibility. Thus something as simple and effective as a rites of passage ceremony, begins a lifelong training ground for the boy to grow into a man, provider, protector, leader, warrior, husband and father. And being a father is just as important and just as weighty a load to bear as that of a mother. Each gender is held to the strictest expectation in the traditional Afrikan society.
As the defender and provider, it is the duty of men/patrons to give influential support to family members and the community at large. It is within the province of patrons to favor encouragement, or countenance, to a person, institution, work; art etc. African men love to see that their sons perpetuate their legacies or follow to their footsteps. The reason is because sons are the ones who will perpetuate their extinction. On one hand, sons are expected to inherit physical characteristics of their fathers since African males are considered descent through the male line. Traditional African societies consider children to be source of both labor and family power. Thus childbearing in Africa is culturally mandated while infertility is critically despised.
A father is a boy’s first hero and a girl’s first love. Without that balance, we have males who grow without proper examples (fathers, uncles, grandfathers, family friends) who can provide a template for how to act, look, think and be a man. Likewise it also provides the female with a template of what an authentic man looks, acts and sounds like. It is selfish, arrogant and ultimately destructive for females to give impressionable children that a mother can be a father, in a society already saturated with gender confusion, male emasculation, overt female aggressiveness and shunning of a process designed to create harmony in the house, society and nation. While father’s day, like mother’s day should be a 24/7/365 recognition, let’s not further sully the water by alienating children who already have a socially distorted image of the Afrikan father as an absent, uninvolved and unnecessary object and the mother as being all that a child should want and ever need. While a child growing up without a father in his life, can and have been documented to have developed certain traits such as respect, manners, and achievement orientation, the Afrikan families are several steps out of sync because the actuality of masculinity, leadership, providers and fearless protectors of women and children cannot be recreated in a fatherless boy by a female. No matter how “butch”, how determined or deluded she may be. It takes a village to raise a child and a man to raise another one.